Sunday, November 6, 2011

Benefits of being an older mom

I had my first child at age 26.  I had my 8th child at age 40.   I think there are alot more perks to being an older mom than people realize. I will give you a short list.
1.  Smarter.   Simple enough.   A 40 year old mom is way way smarter than a 26 year old mom...in almost every thing..maybe facebook, twitter, but those things unnecessarily clutter your life anyway.
2.  Money.  You have more of it.
3. You don't sweat the small stuff.   You have cleaned up a lot of spilled milk and no longer cry about it.
4.  Perspective.  Your know your little toddler will not be using his pacifier at age 20.  You  know your 4 year old won't need his blanket at age 20.  You can relax, the kid can relax...with his pacificer and his blanket.
5. You don't have to join the PTA.   Yes, shocking, but true.   All those kids are at your house all the time anyway because you now have the best yard, toys etc., so you see the interactions all the time ... and as my 9 year old said, you have to pay $5 to be a member of the PTA!  You can start saving that money.
6. Food.  You can enjoy, delight and savor food.   A 40 year old is aware of the the four basic food groups and knows that it is true that certain foods will not kill your child, like Lucky Charms
7.You can enjoy classroom parties!  Yes, no more fretting over elaborate theme treats or shopping for coordinated paper products with matching napkins... you can bring in store brand oreos on a white plastic paper plate and those kids are happy.
8. You and your child together can enjoy the holidays more....like halloween.   You child can bring home an entire pillowcase full of candy and dump them it on  the carpet and oh so happily sit and eat treat after stickey gooey treat.. they no longer have to have only one a day or save it because by now you know that in 3 days your kid will be sick of the candy and will readily start asking you if you want some and you don't  have to steal it and hide it!
9.You don't have to carry so much stuff around in big bags.  With my first child I was prepared for every season and every natural disaster each time we went somehwere.  Just in case..
10. They can skip a nap.  It is true.  My first child took a nap every day in the first 2 years of her life at 1pm.   Not one single exception.  We actually brought the portable playpen to events like weddings so she could have the required nap.   My eighth child gave up his naps by 8 weeks... had to... too many people bothering him all the time.  He learned to fall asleep anywhere, like on kitchen tables or standing.
11.  But, my favorite of all:  you can relax, enjoy and love your child right now, right at the age he is.   You don't wish he was already walking, or talking or going on a bus or dating or anything!  You can revel in the stage he is in at the present time... doesn't really get any better than that!
 

6 comments:

  1. #10 is my favorite! Haha poor Mark...

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  2. I liked this post! Thanks for reminding me of the delights of being an older mom! I only wish I started a little younger :-) It is true what you said... with#1 I was too neurotic. With #2 I am much more relaxed. I expect it will only get better with #3. -sharon

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  3. I also liked this post :)

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  4. Totally agree! I had my first child at age 21 and waited 11 years to have another one. I am now 33 and have an 8 month old cutie pie! This time around, I don't sweat the small stuff and I know for the most part what he will do!

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  5. I can so relate to this post. :-) I got married much later and had my first child in my mid thirties. After 4 children, I am more relaxed, except that we still do not have the plentiful money. ha ha ha And yes, I am from MBC - Husband, 4 boys, et. al.

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