My 13 year old son is having a great season wrestling, with a record 35-2. He was at a competitive tournament last week and lost. He got 2nd place. He shook the winner's hand graciously. He was disappointed but not disheartened, and more motivated and determined than anything else. There was the usual fanfare ..trophies, pictures, medals, etc. On the way out of the building he had all these awards in his hands and threw them in the garbage can. My husband said , "Why did you do that?" My son answered, "I don't want 2nd place. "