Monday, February 13, 2012
Getting Fired From Your First Job
My son was 14 and got his first part time job as a cashier in a grocery store. He had a 2 week training period where an older person instructed him and then watched over him. His cash register was never off by even a penny. . . and everyone, including my son, was happy about this! He was actually liking this job, especially because he was getting positive feedback from his bosses and peers. One time I picked him up and we went to another grocery store to get a red box. The first thing he noticed was how sloppy all the shopping carts were at the other grocery store! He said his shopping carts would never look like this. The next week he was telling me about the current grocery sales. He was beginning to feel accomplished working for this pocket money. Then after the third week they promoted him! He was now working at the express line.He was feeling good about himself. My husband and I were at another son's baseball game and my cell phone rings and it is this working son. "Mom. Can you please come and get me now?"
He was supposed to be working 4 more hours. I said "Are you ok?" "Yes." "Did something happen?" "Yes. I will tell you when you get here." I left the game. He was sitting on the curb waiting for me and he didn't look too good. I said, "What happened?" He told me...it was Saturday and the store was very very busy. It was like everyone in town was shopping at that store at that time. The check out lines were long. People were impatient. It was his first day at the express line. A kid, who looked to be an older teen asked for chewing tobacco. He sold it to him. Then checked out the next person in line. About 10 minutes later a man in a badge comes over to my son and tells him he has broken the law by selling tobacco products to underage kids and here is your $250 fine. There was a young associate manger in charge. She saw the commotion and also saw the line backing up even worse and went to find out what happened. She said, " Store policy is any issues at all with anyone under age 16 we immediately fire them. No questions. I am sorry, but you are fired." We found out later this was a sting set up. The state department of alcohol and tobacco targets stores to watch if they sell tobacco products to minors. They pick a store where a young person is working because they are the ones who usually sell to minors. The employees of this state funded department scout the local stores and pick a young person to trap. Well, this person was my son.
It took at least 4 more weeks for him to not feel discouraged and find the ambition to begin to look for another job.
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Aww, poor guy!
ReplyDeleteOh, what a sad story. Poor guy. He's just trying to do good and work. It's not ok to set up a teen like this. Hope it doesn't keep him down. :(
ReplyDeleteAwww, that's terrible. Your poor son!
ReplyDeleteOh I am so sorry, I think those stings ought to be intrapment ,and should not be allowed to happen :(
ReplyDeleteThat's horrible!! And I disagree with setting up a sting on a young kid like this. And the fact that some 16 year olds may not actually look 16... I know many who look like they are in their 20's.
ReplyDelete(I guess the moral of the story is... always ask for ID, better to be safe that sorry and better to offend the person than risk a hefty fine for a "set up".)
In Australia, the age is 18 for tobacco & alcohol. My girls always get asked for ID when ordering a glass of wine for family celebrations... even the 27 year old (she looks about 18) and my almost 20 year old looks about 13-14.
I truly hope your poor son isn't too shattered and finds himself a new job quickly to boost his self esteem :)
I'm sorry that this happeend to your son. I know that these things are put in place to protect our children, but it still hurts in the end if it happens to you. I'm sure that he will find another job soon and I would probably just leave this job off the application so it doesn;'t make him look bad in their eyes.
ReplyDeleteThat's terrible. He should have checked but I don't think the policy of the store is fair at all. I guess it becomes another of life's lessons!
ReplyDeleteWow- that seems like a really unfair tactic. I'm glad he did find it in him later to go out and find another one. That first one really stings.
ReplyDeleteWhat a sad story! Hope he is coping from the job loss. Life is all bout experiences, with this experience he will never make that mistake in life again, and there are more better job opportunities in the future for him. So he should not worry but be very thankful that he learnt something from this.
ReplyDeletePoor Guy. I bet your "Mama Bear" wanted to come out to play, didn't it? When I was a teenager, working in a grocery store, they always sent ringers through to make sure we were getting the prices on the food right. (No electronic cash registers in those days.) More than once, they sent someone through my line. Never found a mistake, which was lucky for me. I was saving for school and really needed my job.
ReplyDeleteHope he gets another job soon with someone who'll appreciate him.
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I'm so sorry this happened to your son. I don't think doing this to a kid is fair play without a prior reason. The store should be fined not the kid. I had a similar experience when working at a theater. Someone working there was eating some of the candy from the boxes then selling them. They couldn't find out who, so fired all employees hired after it started. (This was back in 1966) I was their best candy salesman and the theater manager went to bat for me, but no avail. Corporate made the decision ALL had to go. It still rankles being unfairly fired.
ReplyDeleteoh my. I remember working at the filling station at that age. It is nice to be praised, but does feel horrible when you get in trouble. Tell him to keep his head up and keep smiling, there will be another job. A hard lesson to learn, but I am sure he will always question in the future.
ReplyDeleteI'm so sorry, that's a bummer! I agree with some of the other posters, the store's policy seems a bit harsh.
ReplyDelete"In any organization there will always be one person who knows what is going on. This person must be fired."
ReplyDeleteNot the best "I was fired" quote, but in the long run, your son has learned a great lesson. I hope he can keep his chin up!
Oh! That's not a fair policy.
ReplyDeleteaw, everyone has to go thru it
ReplyDeleteWhat a sad lesson to learn. It was a mistake, but I know he'll find something else he enjoys. :(
ReplyDeleteWow what a slap in the face. As a manager for many years working in a grocery store, I always reminded my cashiers about carding EVERYONE. It's unfortunate that he didn't have better training in this area as he seemed like a great employee. I hope things get better for him.
ReplyDeleteThis is a terrible story. I hope that you took your business to another store. He will find a job that he enjoys even more.
ReplyDeletePoor wee man. That's awful. I can just imagine the sinking discouraging feeling he must have been feeling, not to mention the embarrassment. It'll take a while, but he'll get over it, especially with your support.
ReplyDeleteI know that laws must be enforced but this seems unfair to your son. Sting operations often do not nab the true offenders but innocent bystanders! Thanks for dropping by my blog! I'm a new LINKY friend!!
ReplyDeleteI am so sorry to hear this, how discouraging. Unfortunately this is the world we live in. My oldest daughter has been through 'hire and fire' jobs that really opened our eyes to the work environment we don't often see from our side of the register.
ReplyDeleteBe encouraged and go for it again!
My son managed to get himself fired through his own incompetence and that shattered him enough so I can only imagine how your poor chap felt. The good thing about children is that they bounce right back.
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I am so sorry to hear this. I hope your son isn't too discouraged and finds another job that he loves even better. Sometimes these things happen for a reason, even though that is always a tough pill to swallow. Thanks so much for stopping by!
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Wow, I am so very sorry to hear about what went down with your son. What an awful first experience. Glad he has you to work him through this. Blessings.
ReplyDeleteMy first thought was to ask if they'd given him sufficient training - did they mention he needed to ask for ID? Of course, it's water under the bridge now, and a lesson learned, but I wonder if the store needs to train better. I too was fired from my first "real" job. I was in the mailroom of a major publishing company, and I too did so well I was promoted within the first 2 weeks to being in charge of the smaller of 2 mailrooms. My problem was unreliable transportation. My car would have a flat, overheat, whatever. The talked to me about it and suggested I ride with a co-worker who lived near me. She was willing, but was also always late, dropping her son at daycare, stopping for coffee. One day, they fired me for lateness - even though I argued I had no control over it and was now riding with the person THEY suggested!! And she was late too!! That was my first lesson in the course of "life isn't fair". Live and learn! A year or two later I moved across the street from that company and could walk there. They rehired me in another capacity and I worked there for 5 years until I left to have my first child.
ReplyDeleteWow. That's exactly how I got fired from my first job. I was a cashier and I carded the girl trying to by alcohol but she was like I didn't bring it. So I sold it to her because the line was long and the store was busy. Sorry :(
ReplyDeleteHow sad for your son. I'm sorry he had to go through that. Glad to hear he's looking for another job now. Sounds like he's going to make a valuable employee to someone who will appreciate him. ~ Abby
ReplyDeleteWow, I'm so sorry about your son! It does take a lot longer to get over things like that when you are younger! I hope, he'll find another job soon that he'll enjoy.
ReplyDeleteThat is too bad all the way around. I'm sure your son never even thought about it when he checked the kid out. It is a real wake up call, isn't it, about how quickly a little mistake can turn ugly? I hope he can find another job in quick order. xo Diana
ReplyDeleteAw, this is heart-breaking. That incident must have shaken your son to the core. I'm glad he still went ahead and got another job.
ReplyDeleteWow! Reading this brought me back to my days as a clerk in a grocery store, similar experience! The thing about those retail jobs is that they always come and go! There is only really room for older persons to grow career-wise as opposed to just having a job. I'm glad your son took pride in his work and actually got the chance to feel some independence!
ReplyDeleteFirst, I am so sorry that happened! Second, why in the world would any organization have a policy like that? Particularly with young people, who, not having the life experience, are bound to make a mistake or two. That's just so unreasonable. I hope he found a better place to work!
ReplyDeleteHe will be okay, especially with a momas great as you! These lessons are always hard to watch our kids go through, please remind me of this when Joslyn is going through this!
ReplyDeleteWhat a tough lesson! I have never heard of getting fired for one infraction like that. I am sure he was discouraged- but I am glad to hear that he was able to pick himself up and start looking for work somewhere else. Lucky for him he has such a supportive mom!
ReplyDeleteHow frustrating! Good thing he has a strong work ethic and will bounce back. It doesn't seem like a fair lesson to have to learn.
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plain and simple- that sucks!
ReplyDeletehe did learn a valuable lesson on selling tabacco products...it's a shame he had to loose his job over that mistake..
ReplyDeleteI'm so sorry your son lost his job. Doesn't seem fair though. They should make anyone who wants to buy tobacco or alcohol go to a counter just for that. That would certainly take care of selling to underaged.
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Oh wow, poor kid! Thats rough. Honestly I wish they wouldn't allow minors handle purchases of tobacco products. I wish him the best of luck in finding another job! =)
ReplyDeleteI hate that for him :(
ReplyDeleteWhat a shame...my daughter works at a supermarket too and i would be horrified if this happened to her. They are still only kids and still learning. The store obviously needs to also train better rather than jumping on the employees first.
ReplyDeleteI hope he recovers and gains his confidence....perhaps a smaller store might help for the next job?
Actually, i just remembered my daughter saying that she is unable to serve alcohol or tobacco products while on the checkouts until aged 18 (in Australia this is) so that would seem a fairer solution to me if they are setting up young workers over there!
ReplyDeleteWell everyone already said it. But that was a horrible experience for your son. Hopefully he can snap out of it and move forward and not look back.
ReplyDeleteA similar experience happed with a co-worker of mine’s son. Her son thought the girl was in her early 20’s, turns out she was underage and hired by the police. He and the store got fined. Luckily for him, he just got a warning, and was made to go to additional training, but didn’t get fired. He did say afterwards, that the lesson stuck with him and he’ll never forget to card.
ReplyDeleteIt’s crazy that the store simply fired your son without issuing a warning first and I agree with others that the store should have also been fined.
That's a shame, really -- but I'm really surprised that the store would hire a 14 year old and is it legal for him to sell tobacco products at 14? This would be something I would look into. Just for my own satisfaction. All you can do is advise him that life is not fair and this is one of those hard lessons we all must learn. He'll be fine -- I'm sure of it!
ReplyDeleteI'm so sorry that happened to your son!! I used to work at a drug store that also sold tobacco and alcohol. I was forced to ask for ID of everyone. It didn't matter if they looked 80 years old. No ID, no purchase. That was the policy. If I had not even asked for ID I would have been fired, no questions asked! I think that your son should have been given a second chance, especially because they did not train him well enough. He is just learning.
ReplyDeleteThe positive is that he will never ever sell alcohol or tobacco to a minor again because I'm sure this will stay in his mind forever.
Good luck to your son!
I'm sorry to hear your son lost his job.
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Thanks HORRIBLE!!!! Not cool at all to be setup like that :( I'm sure he'll find a job soon though!!
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Oh no - that's so hard for a teen, especially when they were so proud of their job.
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Oh, poor kid, sorry for him. Hopefully a better job will come along. It's so tough when you are younger. Thanks so much for dropping by the blog and I love yours, now following!
ReplyDeleteYour son did not deserve this at all. Hopefully he will shake this off and realize that once he keep up the good work, and maintain the respect and pride in his work that he has, he will succeed....and find a much better place to work too.
ReplyDeletesorry to hear this! hope he was able to get another job!
ReplyDeleteI am sorry for your son. Things like this only make him wiser after he gets over the discouragement. This kind of prepares him for adult life, I suppose. God bless him.
ReplyDeleteThat is so sad. It seems that good employees are the ones to get the short end of the stick lately. I hope he gets another job and can get past this. He should still be very proud of himself.
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ReplyDeleteThese are the type things law enforcement do that make kids lose respect for them. 'Ya raise good law abiding kids who respect authority and their first connection with it bites them in the azzz.
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Awwww man. Poor kid. Just when he was starting to feel accomplished about being a responsible employee too. That sucks. My husband's family owns a liquor store and often hires 18 and 19 year old kids fresh out of high school. The local law enforcement always waits for these kids to be working alone and in my opinion entraps them (which I think it total crap). While we have had to pay many fines over the year we have never fired anyone over it. It's not fair to them. Hope your son gets to work somewhere a bit more understanding the next time.
ReplyDeleteI'm sorry for your son...it just sucks all the way around. I hope he is able to find another job soon!
ReplyDeleteWOW! I think that the department that set him up should be fired!
ReplyDeleteThat totally sucks for your son! He does not deserve that at all. And I agree with Brenda- that department should be fired~
ReplyDeleteThat's harsh. What a horrible store policy, under 16 fired no questions asked especially when he was doing so well. Those sting operations kill me, looking for young, busy, slightly overwhelmed salespeople who might make a mistake as opposed to the ones who just don't care and deliberately don't follow the rules ever. Life is cruel sometimes. Hope your son isn't feeling too bad
ReplyDeleteAnd did the Supervisor inform him that he had to watch out for minors who ask for tobacco????? I would be making an example of them if they didn't. And why did they have a young person serving where tobacco is available? In our stores cigarettes etc are available from a locked cabinet, with adults serving!
ReplyDeleteTrust he is feeling better now... it was a rugged lesson, and trusting that between you, you will be able to look out for traps in future.
Here in Nebraska they are talking about setting up a law prohibiting this kind of sting. But they are doing it to PREVENT teens or young kids having to lie or buy alcohol/tobacco to do the job. Personally I don't think it's right that kids are being asked to do a job like that.
ReplyDeleteAnother thing - here in Nebraska if your son had been stung he could of gone to prison and been charged $2000+ for selling to a minor. Also, minors aren't allowed to sell alcohol or tobacco and they aren't allowed to touch it either - it's against the law. A manager has to come over and do it. I used to work at a gas station and I was always scared that I would miss someone.
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Poor guy. he must be so disappointed and was probably mortified. My 15 y/o got a job as a stock boy last fall and lasted right up to his probabtion period ending when he was unceremoniously "fired" for not meeting the Manager's *expectations*. You can imagine how he felt, given your son's recent circumstances. Turns out this store owner does this constantly to keep turnover under 3 months so he doesn't have to give kids the after-probation wage increase. Stinks. It hurt my son's feelings, cause like your boy he was doing well and felt very independant. Sending your boy the self confidence to go out there again....it really does happen to everyone.
ReplyDeleteI hate stories like that, but tell him that as long as he does his best, he has nothing to be ashamed of. Life has a lot of harsh moments but it has even more really good ones. H'll be fine, and will have lots of ties when he is looking for jobs and he has already learned from this one. If he wants to succeed more, he has to be willing to fail more, it's the only way. And thanks for following my blog on the blog hop. yours looks great!
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ReplyDeletepoor kid, sorry to hear that. My goodness give your kid a break he is only 14, they should have given him more warning or training for that matter. Thanks for sharing!
ReplyDeleteThat is horrible. I'm so sorry to hear that happened, especially since he was really enjoying it. :(
ReplyDeleteI'm surprised he was allowed to handle the tobacco products. Here all tobacco products are behind one register and the buyer needs to go to that register to purchase them. Someone over 18 is always working that register.
ReplyDeleteSurely this is a failing on the part of the store and it's training methods. He should have been warned and perhaps, at his age, not even allowed to sell these items. Not fair! Do you have any kind of industrial tribunal avenue you could go down. This is so discouraging at a developmental stage in life. OK, rant over!
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