I will give you a daily example. Monday was my hearing for the 90 mile per hour speeding ticket (the post was What Happens When You Are Driving While Listening to Motivational Tapes Dec 18). The hearing was 70 minutes away. When I got the ticket in December, I didn't want to even look at it so my husband did everything for me...he filled out all the paper work and the plea, put a stamp on it and mailed it...he just told me where to sign. The next week when I got the court date he asked me if I wanted him to go with me. I told him " No, I don't think so. Why would you come? " He asked me again the next day if I was sure I didn't want him to go with me. I said "No, really what could you do? " A week later he said , "I have to block my calendar now if you would like me to go with you, I will happily go but I need to know so nothing gets scheduled." I said , "No, I would rather you take the time off when I need you, just go to work. There is nothing really for you to do." So it was completely and totally settled I was going by myself and he was not going with me. We were at parties with friends last weekend, and I was telling them about the hearing on Monday. They all said to me, "you are lucky your husband the lawyer is going with you." Then I told everyone he wasn't going with me. So it is now Sunday at midnight and my hearing is Monday at 8:30am. I woke up my husband and said, "Could you come with me tomorrow?"