Friday, February 17, 2012
My Second Daughter In Less Than 13 Months
Her birthday is Monday. 23. I was 27 years old, working full time in Washington DC, putting my husband through law school and taking care of my 10 week old baby....it was my day off and I was at a friends house having lunch..she made hot dogs for her toddler. I saw the hot dogs, smelled them and threw up. I couldn't think about or look at those hot dogs. I jokingly said the last time I felt this bad was when I was pregnant. haha.. Then I left but couldn't shake that thought. I stopped at a CVS and bought a home pregnancy test...that was way back then...and I had to wait until morning to take the test. I couldn't wait that long. When my husband came home I pounced. This was big news to him too.. he thought a product of my wild imagination... I was still nursing my 2 month old baby. We went to a clinic. The result was positive. The nurse gave me a brochure for planned parenthood and assured me the procedure would be simple and fast. My husband and I went home. I cried the whole way home. How was I possibly going to do this? I was hanging by a thread the way it was...and now another baby? Money was not nearly the worst worry. How would I ever be able to give this baby my love? I could not possibly love this baby as much as the baby I have now. I worried about dividing my love... I worried for 9 months. It was an uneventful but lousy 9 months of constant worry.....then the 18 hours of labor that all the books said would not happen because it was supposed to be much easier...it wasn't. Then transition...I am never ever doing this again...then the loud cry ...and then the baby. My husband lifted her up and put her to my breast. It was love at first sight. True never ending love. Without a doubt. I have never questioned my ability to love her , because there was never a need to. The whole miracle of love is the infiniteness of it! It doesn't get all used up on one child...just the opposite..it multiplies, expands, grows. She is now a fun, beautiful, talented, smart adult..and is as much a gift to us as she is to the world.
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Wow..that must have been a really scary prospect...but having two children so close together has many benefits and I'm glad you learnt so quickly how love is never something that has to be shared...it just expands!!
ReplyDeleteHow sweet. I worried aobut being able to love a second child the same way and I think once you realize that it is not work at all then you don't worry about that with any other children.
ReplyDeleteBeautiful! Thank you.
ReplyDeletewowowowowowowow I literally gasped when I saw the planned parenthood brochure being given to you...what. the. hec. what a wonderful wonderful decision you made...and my grandma once said that when lighting a birthday cake you start with one candle and use that one to light the others...the first flame doesn't get smaller as you light the others...there is just as much there as there are for the other candles...she likened that to having more than one baby...there is always enough love...and none are without with the adding of another...great great post.
ReplyDeleteWOW!! You have a beautiful soul and heart and a beautiful daughter to go with that!! =) Much love and prayers to you!! And a big hug for being SUPERMAMA!!!! :D
ReplyDeleteMy sister and I are 363 days apart. We are what are Irish ancestors call Irish Twins. We look nothing alike and love telling people we are twins adn seeing the look on their faces when they glance back and forth between us. We just leave out the Irish part. =D
ReplyDeleteSuch a sweet story. Reading "Tayet Silverspoon's" comment. My two daughters are so similar. My youngest daughter was born exactly one day before my oldest daughter's 2nd birthday the nurses held a birthday party for her in a room in the hospital so that she wouldn't feel left out. In the beginning she didn't know what to think of her little sister but now that they are 11 and 13 they do and say some things as if they had twin tendancies but look nothing alike. I bet your babies are just as close. Thanks for sharing.
ReplyDeletewow, amazing post. so I'm not the only one have kids close together? lol I'm 32 weeks pregnant and i have a 1 year old. they will be 15 months apart. it was planned, crazy me huh?
ReplyDeleteyour daughter sounds well rounded and lovely
Happy Birthday to you beautiful daughter!
ReplyDeleteMy daughter will be 3 on Monday! I can't even think about her being 23!! :-)
I remember too "how could I possibly love this next one as much".... funny, never had that thought again after #2 came along. Not sure why I didn't know it was so easy to do.
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what a heartwarming post! my 2nd turns 4 months today:-)
ReplyDeleteand she is so beautiful!
ReplyDeleteBeautiful, honest memories! :)
ReplyDeleteEverything works out the way its supposed to! She is beautiful!
ReplyDeleteShe is so beautiful, Happy Birthday to her! I remember the same thing, how could I love another as much...xxoo
ReplyDeleteI can totally relate to this post. I have a 4 month old that we were blessed with through adoption and I am 27 weeks pregnant...they will be 7 months apart! Yikes!
ReplyDeleteThanks for sharing your story. :)
What a beautiful post. I never was what you would call a baby person. I never dreamed of being a mother I also never imagined how much love I would instantly feel for my newborn baby.
ReplyDeleteHappy birthday to your "baby". :)
Beautiful Post. Thank you for sharing your story!
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Congratulations,
Teresa
I felt the same way and mine were 7 years apart, then they same way about my "littles" and guess what, I am head over heels in love with all of them
ReplyDeleteYou are speaking the truth you find more love than you thought was possible.
ReplyDeleteThat is why they are miracles :)
What a fine tribute to your daughter!
ReplyDeleteGod always knows best, doesn't He?!!! Happy Birthday, Brittany!
ReplyDeleteHappy Birthday to your daughter...all that worrying for nothing...why do we do that to yourselves....
ReplyDeleteThanks for your comment on my blog! Happy Birthday to your daughter! SO sweet!
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my oldest 2 girls are 12 months apart - i had much the same feeling as you! i couldn't believe I was pregnant and kept telling the nurse, ' but i can't be pregnant because I have a 3 month old baby!'
ReplyDeleteI just love your blog and I am so happy you found me on The Flower Bed. Your daughter is beautiful. I felt the same way about my second child and he was 3 years younger that my first. I planned him, but I thought can I love him as much? The answer is a resounding yes, and it was the second he took his first breath. Have a wnderful day,
ReplyDeleteMeredith
This is a beautiful post. And you have a beautiful daughter. Happy Birthday to your daughter!
ReplyDeleteThanks for sharing! I have had a worried pregnancy also, only to fall in love all over again..then one more time..I wish I could afford more, they keep me young and fill my life with love!
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Wow, those first months must have been a bit sleepless. Kind of like when my twins were tiny. But it's all worth it, isn't it! :) I'm so glad to "meet" you.
ReplyDeleteWhat a beautiful post!
ReplyDeleteHappy birthday to your daughter! I bet they had fun growing up, being so close in age.
ReplyDeleteThis is exactly what I needed to read today. We have an 11 year old, 4 year old and two two year olds. Last week we accepted a foster care child AND, a day later, I found out that I'm pregnant again. Feeling slightly overwhelmed but knowing 18 years from now it will all be so worth it :)
ReplyDeleteSounds like it was all worth it! Great story!
ReplyDeleteAwww such a sweet story! Happy birthday to her in advance :)
ReplyDeleteAi @ Sakura Haruka
I remember thinking what you thought when I was pregnant with my second..."How can I possible love another child as much as I love my first child?!" A friend of mine who had three children said basically what you said about love--"Your love will grow and you will love each of your children immensely." And sure enough, that is what happened. Wonderful post! I can't imagine having two so close together, except for the fact that my older sister and I are 12 1/2 months apart!
ReplyDeleteYour daughter looks like she is delightful!
ReplyDeleteIt was meant to be! Your children are beautiful! Happy Birthday!
ReplyDeleteHow lovely :)
ReplyDeleteThanks for visiting and for the follow! I am following you in return. Mom to 8, you are a special woman who has many blessings. xo
ReplyDeleteWow! You are one brave momma...but everything does happen for a reason. Hey at least I know where to go for advice!
ReplyDeleteI'm horrified that they gave you an abortion pamphlet - think of all the amazing blessings you'd have missed not having her in your life!
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ReplyDeletewhat a lovely story..she is gorgeous....thanks for dropping by!
ReplyDeleteI remember when I was pregnant with my second, I had the same feelings of not loving him like my first. I'm amazed at how we can have not one but a few/many true loves :) Your daughter is beautiful!
ReplyDeleteShe looks like a lot of fun, and wonderful story!
ReplyDeleteHappy Birthday to your daughter! My oldest son turned 24 this week :) My first two are 17 months apart. Not quite as close, but closer than I would've planned. Of course, my last two were only a minute apart, so at that point 17 months seemed pretty easy :)
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I admire you, being a Mother of 8 I'm sure is not an easy job. I would love to read some more of your experience being a Mom anyhow I follow you back, thank you! xx Joice
ReplyDeleteLOL- Been there- done that! I had a son that was 7-almost 8..then had a daughter. Then... My 2 girls are 13 months apart and I had a boy a year an a half later. I had those last 3 kids in 4 years. It was a zoo but I loved every moment of it. Thank you for sharing your story with us..and Happy Birthday to your daughter. xo Diana
ReplyDeleteWOW - Two years apart seemed close for our three. Your two girls are treasures from heaven.
ReplyDeleteI have cousins who were born in the same year, January and December. These things do happen--not that I need to tell you that. ;)
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Wow ! And I thought my kids were close, 17 months apart! You are a miracle lady! Thanks for linking up in our writer weds hop and please come back next week!
ReplyDeleteI am your newest follower, I am so happy that you came over for a visit! Happy Birthday to your love and joy!! Nettie
ReplyDeleteHoly moly- how did you do it? Irish twins! You are a true inspiration!!
ReplyDeleteHappy birthday to your lovely daughter. You have a beautiful family.
ReplyDeleteOne of my friends learned the hard way that nursing is not effective birth control. They are good now, but those first few months of having two 'babies' was difficult. Now that the kids are older and have a younger sibling, their life is still crazy, but not as much as it was.
ReplyDeleteI also have cousins that are 366 days apart.
What a lovely young lady! You are blessed. :)
ReplyDeleteHappy Birthday to your daughter! My Husband and his brother are very close in age as well. 14 months apart.
ReplyDeleteWhat a beautiful story. Thank you!
ReplyDeleteMy sister and I were 15 months apart. I always thought it made us closer. Happy Birthday to your daughter!
ReplyDeleteI wonder about all of that if we were ever to get pregnant again! But I know that God doesn't give us more than we can handle!
ReplyDelete8 kids? Wow! My brother has 6, I thought that was a lot! Thanks for stopping by, following back :)
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What a great read! Thank you for stopping by, I am following back :)
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Such a beautiful story--thank you for sharing! I found you and am your newest follower from the weekend blog hop. Hope to see you follow back! ;o)
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One of life's wonderful surprises! Visiting from Lovin' the Weekend Blog Hop! New follower!
ReplyDeleteShe is BEAUTIFUL! Thanks for sharing your story!
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LOVE the pictures you posted, Happy Birthday to your girl!! Thanks so much for stopping by my blog and I'm gladly following you back!
ReplyDeleteI'm sure she's glad that you kept her! How wonderful!
ReplyDeleteawww... what a fantastic post. happy birthday to your child. :)
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Thanks for sharing such a precious story. My heart is full of 5 beautiful daughter and 15 darling grandkids. You have a lot to look forward to.
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Teresa
What a beautiful post. Your daughter is gorgeous. Happy Birthday to her. :) Thanks for stopping by my place. I'm now following you as well :)
ReplyDeleteThis is such a beautiful post and so SO true about the nature of love-love expands to fill our lives with the coming of a new baby. Thanks so much for such an authentic and heartfelt post :-) i loved reading it.
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ReplyDeleteWhat a wonderful story! I'm so glad you shared the story with us all. I have to agree with you. I was scared that I wouldn't have enough love to go around. It is indeed the opposite. I'm surprised at how much love I have to give and so glad that you chose to continue to have children. You sound like a wonderful parent!
ReplyDeleteHappy Birthday to your daughter (who is beautiful by the way!)
You write wonderful posts. I have been wondering myself how I could ever love another child the same I love my little man. How could I go through another 9 months knowing the pain it cost to bring him into the world and want to do it all over again? I haven't made up my mind. My little man is only 9 months so I'm not rushing either. Your post has given me hope that one day not too long from now I will build up the courage and just let God decide whether we have another or not. And if we do I am sure my heart will hold even more love than it already does now :)
ReplyDeleteHappy Birthday to your daughter! She is just beautiful. Loved this post.
ReplyDeleteThis was such a beautiful story!! Thank you for sharing. I always tease my mom, who she loves the most, me being the oldest I said it had to be me. But she say's I Love you all the same, and when I have kids I will know what that's like! I love my nieces and nephews with such an incredible love, I can't imagine what the "LOVE" will feel like when I have my own!
ReplyDeleteHappy Birthday to your lovely daughter...(we share the same birthday)
She's beautiful! Happy Birthday to your daughter! You write very well - I'm enjoying reading your posts!
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That was a sweet story, I five by birth one by adoption. I love them all but I remember those same feelings when I had my fourth ten years after my third! Then my 5th. Now that 2 are grown and out of the house, one married with 2 sons, and 3 of them are teens well I'm more tired now than I was then! I'm following you back! You have alot of followers! Natalie@ Bridgets Daughter
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ReplyDeleteLove your blog <3 You have a truly blessed family!
ReplyDeleteOwh this is soo sweet.. Happy Birthday to your beautiful daughter.
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Have a nice day!
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I also couldn't shake the feeling that I was pregnant and I was too :) Sometimes we just know.
ReplyDeletetouching story...thanks for sharing! happy birthday to her.
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Happy birthday to your number 2. What a blessing they all must be.
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What a wonderful story... I got teary, thank you so much for sharing. What a struggle those early years must have been!
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I can't believe you had 2 daughters so close together! I don't know how I would've handled that...but I certainly know I would have loved them both just as you did. Awesome story!
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I so identified with this story every time I had another pregnancy I was so happy yet worried that I would have what it took. Yet everytime God provided and is still providing now.
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So happy to find your blog and I love this sweet story!
ReplyDeletewow! what a great story to share! happy birthday to your daughter!
ReplyDeleteSuch a sweet story.....n happy b'day to ur daughter :-)
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I truly enjoyed reading your post as I hold my 3 day old son in my arms. Children are such a blessing and you are so blessed to have a eight beautiful blessings. God bless and have a wonderful week sis:)
ReplyDeleteThis is such a beautiful story. My brother and I are exactly like your two daughters are, we are right after each other. My mom panicked too but thank God she went through with the pregnancy and now he is like my twin and has such a happy spirit. Your daughter is blessed to have you as her mom and you are blessed to have such a God given gift as well. Children are definitely a gift from God. All the best!
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ReplyDeleteMy first is 7. My second is 3 months. I worried the whole pregnancy that I would love one more than the other.... not possible!
ReplyDeleteWhat a great story you share... I couldnt imagine having kids that close together... or having 8!
This is such a great post! Yes, love is amazing and it can grow and multiply more than we can ever imagine. Thanks for the inspiration!
ReplyDeleteHappy birthday to your daughter.
ReplyDeleteI am 13 months younger than my brother and I don't know how my mom did it...I'm just glad that she kept me and never even thought to do otherwise.
What a great story! Mom to 8?! Oh my!! Thanks for stopping by my blog, and of course I'm your newest follower too!
ReplyDeleteHi, I just found your blog and was encouraged by this post. After wanting children for three years after our marriage we finally had a little girl, and 4 months after she was born I started throwing up and wondered, like you, if it was possible that I was pregnant again. Yep! Exactly 13 months after the birth of my first daughter we were blessed again by another daughter. They are now 22 months and nine months old and I love watching them learning to play together. Also, I'm now 3 1/2 months along, next is due in late August. People think I'm crazy but my husband and I are thrilled. Children are a gift and we're very happy :-)
ReplyDeleteIt's so true... your love does grow and multiply the more children you have. :)
ReplyDeleteWhat a beautiful post!! Really beautiful!!
ReplyDeleteWow! I thought wanting a second within a year was too close for comfort!! I personally would love to have my children close in age, and (on a selfish note) can't imagine waiting 3-5 years and then doing it ALL over again!!!
ReplyDeleteWow... This was awesome to read. It definitely gave me a little boost! I currently have one son- 25 months old but will have a son and a daughter any day now... any hour maybe! I know that I'll love my daughter- I already do, but I keep worrying about how I'll split up my time and attention between the two of them! I know it will all work out, but it is kind of a scary transition going from one child, who is the center of your universe, to two!
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