Have you ever been really disappointed? Of course you have! Every human being has been disappointed. Didn't get the boy, the grade, the medal, the job. We in our house were certainly disappointed this weekend and experienced the whole gamut of emotions ... hope, fear, happiness, sadness, joy. It is not the end of life as we know it and we are alive and healthy. But still cannot deny the disappointment that is in our hearts. So now what? Rationalize, shrug our shoulders and say, "It didn't matter that much anyway." That would not be true. Because everything matters. Now we clean up the spilled milk and grow from our encounters with life, and turn experience into knowledge. It has been said that what doesn't kill us will make us stronger.
It seems there should be an easier way of getting strong!
Amen. I so agree. Hugs, Marty
ReplyDeleteThis is so true. My son was at a major swim meet this weekend and was walking down the stairs and twisted his ankle, we are home early and now he is scheduled for x-rays. tomorrow. He twisted the other one 8 weeks ago, bummer. But it isn't life threatening and he will recover, disappointed yes, but in the big picture not a big deal.
ReplyDeleteTank care,
Meredith
Life is such a roller coaster. I'm hoping that today will be a joy filled day for you and your family.
ReplyDeletexo,
Danielle
They say there is strength in numbers....
ReplyDeleteDisappointment in one area opens doors for other areas....
Strength of character???
Any of these wonderful cliches... but they don't really do much for instant disappointment do they? Time heals all wounds (?)
returning the visit/follow :) I am rarely disappointed because I have low expectations... might not be a good thing lol
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Paula
I loath the saying, 'that what doesn't kill us makes us stronger'! It think it actually causes bitterness. AND the circumstances of life are intended to make us better, not bitter! My 2 cents!
ReplyDeleteSorry to hear that this was a tough week for your family. It plain stinks to be disappointed. After being disappointed for a little bit I can usually clean up the mess and move on, but sometimes some things are hard to get over. Good luck!
ReplyDelete~Jess
http://thesecretdmsfilesoffairdaymorrow.blogspot.com/
dealing with disappointment is bittersweet. sometimes it takes short time to get over it, and sometimes it takes longer. but it's the deal of life
ReplyDeletevery well said ;-)
ReplyDeleteGreat lesson in the end!
ReplyDeleteHi there, So sorry you are dealing with disappointments, but they do build character. Your kiddos will be better off with having to stretch and grow and not have everything come so easy-but it doesn't make it easier to go through.
ReplyDeleteSending hugs your way today.
Noreen
Amen!!
ReplyDeleteI'm disappointed a lot - maybe my expectations are too high! I don't dwell on that stuff - the feeling only lasts a moment or so...
ReplyDeleteI just try to tell myself whatever doesn't happen or does happen is meant to be. Recently, we were hoping hubby would get this awesome job he applied to, but he didn't get it. It was disappointing. It would have been a great job, great money, which would move us right back where we REALLY want to be. I guess God has a different plan for us. Anyway, I want to thank you for leaving a comment on my blog. You boosted my numbers to 23. So exciting.
ReplyDeleteI hope whatever happened is not life altering -or has long term effects. It is amazing what lessons life teaches us-whether we want them or not- xo Diana
ReplyDeleteI agree there should be an easier way to get strong...and there is if you're talking 'physically' strong....but this is the only way I know to get mentally strong unfortunately, My Thoughts are with you all. xx
ReplyDeleteI used to take things to heart so much more - now I think what can I change - nothing but me and try my best to smile about something.
ReplyDeletei've come to the conclusion with my growing in Christ ... that until you learn a lesson ... you will continue to come into contact with people you will help with that lesson... there are certain lessons i continue to work on ... & i'm determined to learn them & move on. no wonder they silly folks keep bugging me. i had no clue ... now my mind is awakened to it & i will be smarter about the whole situation. hello!! amazing what you can learn. sure hope things will smooth out at your place. i know it is tough to learn sometimes. (:
ReplyDeleteTrue, true, and true!
ReplyDeleteThanks for the encouragement! It's those tough moments that God uses to make us stronger. When we really think about it, do we grow in the easy moments like we do in the hard times?
ReplyDeleteSo true, disappointment sucks but you have to push through it. Great post!
ReplyDeleteBtw, I mentioned your post "Where Have All the Men Gone?" in my latest blog post, having been inspired by it...
ReplyDeleteWe have all been there and yes, it makes us stronger:) Prayer and HUGS coming your way!
ReplyDeleteI just read about your disappointing experience with the vehicle. How terrible for your family, and what are the odds of that happening? Crazy!
ReplyDeleteIt's hard to understand why things happen, but as the Bible says, it rains on the just and the unjust. Sometimes, life just stinks.
I will be praying that God will provide and supply your needs in this area. He is more than able.
Sorry to hear that. Not much we can do to prevent disappointments... but looking at it as something to turn into knowledge is a great way to look at it!
ReplyDeleteYou have had a tough week and stressful. Hoping things get better for you all and something absolutely awesome comes your way.
ReplyDeleteIrish
I've always heard it said, "Things happen for a reason." I know that's hard to swallow when you're disappointed, but I believe it. Maybe at some point in the future you'll look back on this disappointment aand see that things actually worked out BETTER. Keep smilin'. :)
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(And thanks for visiting my blog. I'll be back to see you, too.)
If we got everything just the way we wanted it we would probably be proud, impatient, and judgmental people. We could become bitter about life from disappointments. I think that is a choice we can make, to be bitter or better. Interesting post.
ReplyDeleteBeing able to deal with disappointments is one of life's necessary skills. The child who never had to learn will grow up to be a conceited, egotistical, selfish adult. That said, it's OK to feel disappointed - after all, you need goals (though you don't "need" to reach them all).
ReplyDeleteGreetings! While yes, I've had way too many disappointments to count, they were all 'gifts' now that I look back. As they say, hindsight is 20/20 and it's true. But the disappointments have allowed greater faith and that has been priceless!
ReplyDeleteThanks for stopping by my blog. I enjoy your topics...
I have learned that those moments of "disappointments" are but the opportunities to find hidden treasures of truth....the disappointment is a pavillion covering the truth...and we must reach inside the pavillion to discover the truth....If we will see each experience as such then there shall never be anymore disappointments....for we have learned to trust God in His Divine Just Jugdements for our life and realize it is but a moment of spiritual awakening...through "this moment".....
ReplyDeleteMy youngest son was always in the right place at the time when it came to soccer teams. They were always winning. I kept telling him, that you actually learn more when you lose, than when you win. Some years later, he was a senior in HS, quarterback on the football team. They played an excellent game - he was playing exceptionally well - when the last minute of the game, the other team scored a point and my son's team lost. Disappointing - He saw for the first time, how the parents on our team were angry and throwing adult-sized tantrums - We walked off the field and he remembered what I had said when he was a little boy playing soccer. Later that week, a mom from the other team that won, sent him a note - congratulating him on an excellent game and for his intregrity after the game (unlike some of the parents) To this day, he still has that wonderful note.
ReplyDeleteYou are so right. Thanks for the reminder.
ReplyDeleteMy husband has been moping because of the up coming stress test. It has been three years since his open heart surgery but he has not gotten back in shape. So I am going to tell him that he can still turn things around. If not in April, he can pass the one after another couple of years.
It's so hard to let go of the feelings of disappointment. I'm hoping something marvelous will bring some joy to your life right around the corner~
ReplyDeleteI totally agree. And Welcome!! I love meeting new people. Love your blog. I had this header at one time and liked it a lot and then a blogger friend in Tennessee offered to make me a new one and ...what the heck. Sure. Go for it. So she did the Little Rascal theme and I like it. Thanks for visiting and for the following. I've been blogging since 2008 this being the third blog I've created. I stopped the last one because of a problem relative . . . . or I just get tired and need a change. In any event, I love blogging and love showing everyone how beautiful the Arizona desert is. I'll be on the road next weekend for four days so I'll be posting that for sure. :)
ReplyDeleteI am so sorry you had a big disappointment! But you have such a good attitude about it!
ReplyDeleteWe all have them, don't we? And growing through them is a valuable exercise, but not always an enjoyable one.
ReplyDeleteHope something new and wonderful comes your way soon...
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It can certainly be that way sometimes! Agree, agree!
ReplyDeleteLovely post!! I agree with you but if it was easier to get strong, wouldn't we be lazy learners or not as considerate to others. I think when things come to easy we fail to see how far we've come, how much we've endured and tend to be a bit arrogant about ourselves like when we were younger, lol. I could be talking about myself but I'm happy when I see the results of a hard journey. I'm you're newest follower, following you back :D
ReplyDeleteNot much to add that hasn't already been said...my mom always used to use the saying "when life hands you lemons, make lemonade"...it used to really annoy me, but truly is good advice. I pray things will be better and that there will be no lasting pain from the disappointment.
ReplyDeleteI'm sorry that something didn't work out as you had hoped it would. I think you are very right that the best way to deal with a disappointment is to learn whatever we can from the situation, and move forward. Good thoughts and hugs to you!
ReplyDeleteVery well put. I too wish there was another way to become stronger. But this is what we have been given and we must carry on. Someday it will all make sense. All the best to you and your family.
ReplyDeleteHi momto8,
ReplyDeleteI love this post so much. It is very inspirational and gives encouragement to cope with the challenges that we face during our lives. I wish you and your family all the very best.
Judy
I agree! There should be an easier way to get stronger. My parents died when I was 15 and I have lived by this saying. There were days I didn't know what I would do, but I just realized I had to pick up the pieces and grow from it...it just took me 3 years to realize all of that.
ReplyDeleteThanks for following Rock Paper Scissors Create! I'm following back!
ReplyDeleteWhen I have a big disappointment in my life, I try to remind myself that trials, tribulations and disappointments are character-building. It must be working because my husband often tells me I'm a character.
ReplyDeleteThanks for directing me to your post, your right it could be worse and we can't dwell on these things for too long. I can still be a bit angry for a little while though, but yes I'll get over it!
ReplyDeleteFriday was my dissapointing day with a terrible test score of 66.5%, makes me continue question if I should be an RN, but I will keep striving and fighting the good fight.
ReplyDeleteI am so sorry for your disappoint, but I love your attitude of learning. I will say a prayer for you and your family.
ReplyDeleteHope this week is better, blessings!
I like your attitude a lot + fully agree.
ReplyDeleteThank you for stopping by my blog today. I really appreciate your comments.
ReplyDeleteI am sorry you have had to face a disappointment. May the rest of the week look much brighter for you and your's.
There are no shortcuts in life, I guess. If it's the difficult things in life that make us strong, then we probably must go through these.
ReplyDeleteI have to admit that I turn to sour-graping when things don't go as planned. Yes, I have been disappointed way too many times, it seems...
Hang in there. I'm sure your optimism will see you through :)
Disappointments are always impossibly hard!
ReplyDeleteI think disappointment provides more opportunities for character to grow than success. I have a lot of character.
ReplyDeleteAmen, amen.
ReplyDeleteHow good or bad our character is depends on how we respond to disappointment and failure. If we are sound and responsible human beings, we take disappointment in our stride and it inspires to greater efforts in the future. I hoep it all works out well for your family!
ReplyDeleteAh yes, if only life were easy. Of course,if it were, then it wouldn't be very interesting either ;)
ReplyDeleteSorry for your disappointment!! I think disappointment makes us stronger.Thanks for visiting my blog. I'm your new follower too!!
ReplyDeleteKathy
yeah, I do get A LOT of disappointments everyday and I can't agree more with what you have written. Easy just won't give us enough knowledge to be stronger and wiser in life... there has to be some difficults :)
ReplyDeleteSpanish Pinay
I am sorry to hear about your disappointment. Yes, unfortunately disappointments are a big part of life and they are hard. I hope your sadness over yours doesn't last long for you.
ReplyDeleteHugs, Laura
Such an honest post. I completely agree, everything in this life is an experience made for us to grow and learn. I wish there was another way for us all to become stronger.
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The Urban Umbrella
xoxo
http://urbanumbrella.blogspot.com/
Without disappointment, we wouldn't appreciate the successes so much. Yeah, right. Disappointments still ... disappoint. They say God never gives us a heavier load than we can carry? Unfortunately, the words aren't terribly comforting while we're still straining under the load.
ReplyDeleteI can definitely relate to that. It would be nice if we could get stronger without the disappoinment!
ReplyDeleteYou're right. There should be an easier way.
ReplyDeleteI think so many can relate to this! Thank you so much for stopping by my blog...I'm following as well! :)
ReplyDeleteIt would be much easier if we could learn without the experience of disappointment. I hope things are better for all of you today:)
ReplyDeleteFor me the tough times in my life actually did make me stronger.But after I had my daughter I wanted to protect her from the world.I did not want her to get hurt.She has had some hurtful things happen.And I wish she did not have to go through it but again it did make her stronger.Still would not wish anyone to have to endure going though bad times.
ReplyDeleteBlessings,
Anne
Thank you so much for choosing to follow me at It's A Beautiful Life. What a treat to come and meet you and visit your blog.
ReplyDeleteI was drawn to the title of this posting. I like the idea of turning disappointment into knowledge. The idea reminds of something I heard someone once say, "Don't waste your trials".
I'll come again......... wishing you glimpses of heaven in unexpected places..........
I so agree! I attempt to find the positive in all circumstances...some more difficult than others.
ReplyDeleteThanks so much for stopping by and linking up to Blissful and Domestics Sunday Blog Hop. You rock!
ReplyDeleteDanielle
Blissful and Domestic