Wednesday, May 30, 2012
Why Does Youth Sports Bring Out the Worst In Adults?
Do you know what I am talking about? The dad coach of an 8 year old baseball team. You know he is a good guy. You have seen him open his wallet to the kids collecting money for cancer victims. You see him lend his lawn equipment to his neighbor, and jump start a teens car in a heartbeat. He smiles easily when he passes and waves. Then he becomes the coach of his son's youth sports team (his son almost always gets the coveted positions)... and he transforms. He is now yelling at the kid who swings at a high pitch, telling the nonathletic teammate he would help his team the most by cheering for the good players, berating the team when they lose and saying they will never be a good team. This repeats with the moms! She is the one who organizes the class parties, brings in teacher appreciation gifts, volunteers to help the struggling kids learn to read,...then her son is on your sons baseball team...this same person would throw your kid under a bus if it in any way advances her son's position on the team. It is madness...and I have witnessed it over and over and over. Adults become obsessed by the competitive environment of sports and lose perspective of reality. What does it really matter in the whole time line of life if your son's team wins the youth football championship at age 9? Why is it the most important event in all of recorded history? My husband decides to coach and brings the teams to the playoffs ...and all of a sudden the phone calls and emails start...you cannot continue to play every kid, this is big time now, you have to play to win. You are letting these kids have too much fun and now you have to get serious. When he reminds the parents the team is winning they said it won't stay that way if he continues with this method. It is a crazy crazy world in youth sports. The parents change strategies by high school and start yelling more at the referees or umpires. Then the child grows up, starts a family and becomes his kid's head coach.
Posted by Annmarie Pipa at 8:47 PM