Saturday, June 30, 2012

Is There New Music?

This past month, my husband and I celebrated our 28th wedding anniversary. And since kids started coming 24 years ago, we have maintained a date night, usually 3 times a month, and usually Friday night. It is fun! The purpose is not to eat or party or be entertained, but to be with each other and talk. Rehash the week and regroup for the next. On a budget. We were happy with our dive bar less than a mile away where we could get a cold pitcher of beer and a dozen unhealthy yummy wings for $12. We walk in the place, wave to the waitress and she delivers the beer and 2 frosty mugs without taking our order.  She asks how many wings tonight? We sometimes catch up with the neighbors in the bar. This set up worked for the last 15 years...until new owners took over!  Oh no! With a goal of attracting a newer and bigger crowd, they started having bands and open mike night on our date night! We went a couple times and were entertained, and were surprised this younger crowd listens to our high school and college music. But we missed talking. So last night we ventured into unknown territory into a new bar. We sat outside under a beautiful night sky and ordered our usual, a pitcher of Coors light and 12 extra crispy medium wings. We chilled and kept an eye on the Phillies. 50 minutes later I said to my husband, "I am getting hungry. What could be taking so long?" The waitress checked on us and we asked about the wings...she said, "When your order them extra crispy, they take longer." They were definitely going to be extra crispy. While we waited we got another beer, then the air changed and the wind and lightening started. We went inside to a whole other party going on...with a 2 man band. Playing Queen, Tom Petty, Neil Young. We sat in the booth together, waited for our wings and sang every word to every song.

105 comments:

  1. It's so nice to make time for each other!
    The secret to a long and happy marriage :)

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  2. Annmarie, Singing with your husband...I love it. You and your husband are doing the right thing. If you take time to keep your love alive, your children profit from that. I think if I saw you two together it would make me smile. People love to see happy couples. Smiles, Susie

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  3. How wonderful that you set aside this special time as a priority! May you have many more years of love, health and happiness together! God bless! :-)

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  4. I love the thought of a "regular" place to go. Sad that it had to change. Hopefully, you will find your "new" regular place that is just right. Hope those wings finally came and were worth the wait.

    Congrats on the anniversary.

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  5. I LOVE that you celebrate date night 28 years later. My husband and I are beginning our journey and celebrate 1 year in July. We have had 'date nights' since before we were officially dating. One night a week, set aside, where it's just us hanging out. Love it! HAPPY ANNIVERSARY!

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  6. I'm sorry to hear that new owners destroyed the old ambiance of your favorite bar. Your suspiciously long wait for chicken wings at the new bar leads me to believe that they had to capture the chickens, pluck them, and then slow-fry before serving.
    The sing-along is a nice idea - - - but if you want a quiet place to talk, next time go to Sonic and eat in the car (bring your own beer!).

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  7. Wonderful post. I hope my husband and I can have such a great anniversary when we get there. Thanks for stopping by my blog. Am following you now as well!

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  8. smiles...love me some date night...and its pretty funny how some of the music just seems to cycle around....

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  9. Happy anniversary!!!!

    Your date sounds like so much fun!

    Cheers to many more!

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  10. ooo a date night and an Anniversary, I think music comes round again like fashions,

    Happy Anniversary

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  11. Sounds like you've found a new regular place. And, happy anniversary.

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  12. What a beautiful continuation you have going on. This is very healthy for your marriage. I want a husband again...And date night too.

    Viola over at Along a Widowed Road blogspot

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  13. Congrats on your wedding anniversary ....it is wonderful ..that you still have "date nights"....keeps the fire burning...the joy flowing....what an awesome example of enduring love for your children to witness

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  14. Sounds like a wonderful night. You just gotta love chicken wings. Have a great weekend. Bonnie

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  15. Congratulations on 28 years together! Keep the date nights going!

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  16. I have found over the years (46 of them and counting) that my guy and I have some of our best conversations in a restaurant where we have gone to dinner. Maybe it's because it's neutral territory or because there are people around and we must be civilized (lol!) or maybe it's just what works for us, but whatever the reason when there is an issue in our lives that we need to talk about, doing so over dinner in a place away from home is amazingly productive!

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  17. Sounds like a wonderful night to me! I love date nights!!!

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  18. Happy Anniversary! Good for you guys for having so many date nights in a month and making it a priority!

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  19. I miss those places where you can just seat and talk, and have beer and wings... You did a great job keeping your dates, we aren't this good, we rarely have a date night, mostly because of husband schedule. But I am sure we can work something out. Thanks for the post, it inspires me to ... love my husband even more... :)

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  20. I insist that every evening hubby and I sit with a drink after he finishes work and before I start dinner. He works from home, I think he needs time from ending work unitl dinner to shift his thinking from work to home.we get to talk, and it feels like a mini date!
    Jane x

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  21. love it!!! your music,your beer and your love!! congrats

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  22. i love it to hear that a marriage continues to last. with time, lots of communication, love, support, i believe faith, & lots of time & energy. it all can be GREAT!! so happy for you both. big hugs!! (:

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  23. Congratulations on your Anniversary! Oh I can't believe the younger crowd is digging bands I liked when I was growing up.Okay now I am feeling old LOL.Sounds like a fun night!
    ((((Hugs))))
    Anne

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  24. Happy Anniversary! Date night sounds like a wonderful evening out.
    And what an awesome idea! Have a wonderful weekend!

    sandraallen260@centurytel.net

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  25. My ex-wife insisted on a date night every week. It did not work out so well. Maybe I should have gone on the date with her.


    cranky

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  26. Congrats on 28 years! It's nice you make date night a priority. My husband and I have them twice a month. I think it says a lot when a couple is committed to making time for this kind of thing.

    Have a great rest of the weekend,
    Karen

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  27. Since my wife died, those are the times I miss the most. Even a trip to the root beer stand or to Rally's for a cheap, greasy burger and curly fries was fun. We would get our food and go sit down by the riverwalk, watch the strollers, and catch up on the week. It keep us in love for 38 years, one month, 22 days and 7 hours. (Didn't you do a post recently about counting things???)
    Keep dating! It's those little moments that matter the most.

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  28. It's nice to spend time without the children....I don't think it matters where it is or what you do as long as you both equally enjoy it. Did you ever get your wings??

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  29. How nice you found another place to have a casual date night!! What a wonderful tradition!! And by the way, how were the wings?

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  30. Love this post!

    So, how long did it take to get the wings? LOL.

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  31. Sounds like you had a wonderful date night with your husband! I enjoyed reading about your night:)

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  32. Thanks for linking up! I hope those wings were worth the wait!

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  33. What a great idea--date night 3x a month. Sounds like you had a great time, even though it was a new bar. I know the first few words of lots of oldies, but my hub knows all the words to all the oldies.

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  34. OOps...I forgot to change the sign-in from Jerry's to mine; the previous comment was from me, Pat VanderBeek!

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  35. Congrats on your 28th anniversary its a real milestone :-).

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  36. Sounds like a good night to me. Anything that involves Tom Petty or Neil Young is bound to turn out right. Throw in extra crispy wings and a 28 year long romance, and it's perfect.

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  37. Sounds wonderful:). Happy Saturday!!!! Hugs

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  38. Oh Annmarie, happy anniversary to you both!! It's all so romantic :)

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  39. Happy Anniversary. Did you ever get the wings?

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  40. I think it's so cool that you kept a date night all these years. I can't rememeber the last time my husband and I went out on a date! Great post.
    Blessings, Joanne

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  41. I've heard there is no generation gap when it comes to music anymore. Rock and Roll forever.

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  42. Happy anniversary - sounds like a dream anniversary. sandie

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  43. that sounds perfect. i wish to one day find someone to enjoy every small moment as much!
    were your wings black in the end?!

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  44. So one bars loss is another bars gain. Good for you to get out and have some good fun.

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  45. What fun, and happy anniversary!

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  46. What a great tradition to have regular date nights. For decades, my husband and I didn't have the chance to do this (kids were too little, not enough money, too much work, plain exhaustion), but now the youngest is in college, has a car and a job, and is getting ready to leave the nest... We've been having date nights and weekend getaways and fun excursions. Nothing wrong with an empty nest!

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  47. Now that is what you call rolling with the punches...or singing with the drunks...I can't remember which it is!;>) xo Diana

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  48. I think it's important to make time for just the two of you, to recharge your batteries. Our son is grown and long gone but we still like having a "date night."

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  49. We try to have date nights at least once a week...it really helps! Sounds like you may have found another place...congratulations on the anniversary!

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  50. Hope you had a wonderful anniversary. I love that you guys have kept up with regular date nights. Even when you have eight super kids, you gotta have time for just the two of you.

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  51. We know what you have done with the last 24 years of your life since you had 8 kids during that time. So I am imagining the first four years was about building up courage for what was to follow.

    I originally wanted 5 kids, had 4 and have been very tired since. Even when they leave, they don't leave. That worry feeling that sets in with that first cry stays with you for life and I would not want it any other way..

    Happy Anniversary.

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  52. So sweet! Happy Anniversary! :)

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  53. Singing your heart out is great isn't it!

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  54. Happy Anniversary to you both! It is wonderful that you make special time for each other...
    Love your story...
    I bet the music will bring you even closer ;)
    xoxo,
    - Irina

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  55. Love the idea of a date night! My Beloved works from home so we've sometimes gone out for a lunch date when the schedule allows. Always worth the effort.

    Blessings
    Dotti :)

    New friend from Australia.

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  56. Happy Anniversary and wishes for many more! My husband and I used to do a regular date night on Fridays. It's harder now with a 1 and 4 year old. However, we've learned to enjoy the little things, like sitting on the back porch talking after we've put them to bed. Marriage takes work and couples have to spend time with each other. Great post!

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  57. I couldn't do it, but good for the two of you! And HAPPY ANNIVERSARY!

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  58. Good for you guys that is great that even something so simple is such a cherished event.

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  59. wow, happy happy 28th anniversary to you and your husband! that is amazing and truly inspiring. :)

    <3, Mimi
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  60. Congratulations on your anniversary. Your date nights sound like a lot of fun.

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  61. Me and Mrs Jones will be celebrating our 25th wedding anniversary next month. Pushing the boat out this year (actually and figuratively) as we will be spending 3 nights in New York (we live in the UK) followed by a 7 day cruise to Bermuda.

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  62. Congratulations to you both. I just learnt a new word today from you - Date nights! ....
    I realized that my wife and I have date nights every week for the past 10 years and we
    never quarreled even once. She says that I love to sweep problems beneath carpets! LOL

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  63. Happy Anniversary :)

    So happy to read this. Both are contended with each other

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  64. Happy Anniversary, but you never told us, did you get your wings? Hope the change of venue works out as well as your years of wedded bliss.

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  65. Happy Anniversary! Hubby and I celebrated our 31st the beginning of June. Love that lasts is priceless!

    Thanks for the follow! I'm following back! You have an interesting and honest blog. I like that!

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  66. Happy and blessed anniversary, Annmarie! And, long live date night, no matter where you spend it.

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  67. How sweet. Happy Anniversary to you both.
    Sam

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  68. Happy Belated Anniversary!! How great that you still do Date Night!! My Hubs and I started doing a Date Night, but ran out of things to do.

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  69. Happy Anniversary! I am jealous of your date night! We have been married almost 6 years and never get a date night....but in our defense, we have 3 young kids and live in a different country than the rest of our family and friends at the moment! We are here another 11 months and I have already told my husband that we WILL start doing date nights when we are back. Thanks for the follow, I am now your newest follower :) I hope you enjoy the Taco Rice, it is delicious!

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  70. Happy Anniversary! Date night is definitely important. Sounds like you had fun.

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  71. Happy Anniversary! Loved reading your story:D

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  72. What a great tradition--but I wouldn't blame you for switching your tradition to a new venue.
    Happy Anniversary!

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  73. Congratulations on 28 years!

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  74. Happy belated 28th Anniversary :) I love your 'Date Night' tradition. Interestingly, we just celebrated our 28th as well on the 22nd of June (I see it's now offically July) I have often said that there's been no good music made since 1979...!

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  75. Congratulations. That is so wonderful.... So...did you get your wings?! Were they too crispy? Will you be back for your usual date night?
    One day, I wish for this... But that would mean living closer to family. We are working toward that...

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  76. Happy Anniversary! I think that's a wonderful idea keeping those date nights going all these years, especially with lots of children! You must have been disappointed when you went to your usual venue and found that things were slightly different! I hope that the service gets a bit quicker for you next time!

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  77. Thanks for visiting and commenting on my garden blog :) I haven't told anyone about it, as I'm just sorting through the flower pictures and information on the Internet :)

    Happy Anniversary to you! And... I'd like to know as well, did you get your wings and were they worth the wait??

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  78. Hm, I really like this idea. When we do a date night it's usually dinner, movie something like that but I love your idea so much more. Just a relaxing place that we can go & just talk. I think I'm going to look into that. Thanks for sharing!

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  79. It's been such a busy week that I haven't had even a minute to check blogs until today. I just caught up on your latest posts. I love what you've conveyed here. Happy Anniversary to you both! With the business of life lately, Matt and I feel fortunate to wave in passing. We've had years where we were better at scheduling date nights. And then we've had these types of years. You've inspired me! I think I'll ask him out today.

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  80. I think its absolutely awesome that you and your hubs make time for each other and do date night. I always love reading what you have to share---there is always a blessing and message in it.

    I think all relationships should schedule time to be together and stay connected.

    Irish

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  81. What a great tradition! Happy Anniversary!!! Many Many More...

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  82. Back in the days before I became a widower, Saturday night was for a group of eight of us (four couples) to head out to the club to just talk. Background music was fine, but catching up with everyone's news and light hearted conversation was the routine for many years.
    We also had many musical, quiz, and dance night which too were great fun, but the best times were always had with the quick repartee,witty remarks and serious conversation sorting out all the ills of the world.
    It's a pity the politicians of the world can't do the same.

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  83. Happy Anniversary! Thanks for sharing such a wonderful tradition! We love our weekly dates too--even the ones that are just downstairs after the kids go to bed, lol! Hopefully your new retreat works out!!

    Carla

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  84. I love people who love each other, I love date night, I love cold beer and I love Neil young. Not crazy about wings, but that's about the only thing about this post that doesn't make me happy. I might try crispy wings I never thought of that. Harvest moon is my favorite song

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  85. Date night is so special. So glad you two have been able to maintain it all these years. Well done.

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  86. This is such a special post!

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  87. That sounds great. It's definitely great to have time away from everything, with so many distractions at home (including kids!) it can be hard to have time to just sit and talk.

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  88. Happy Anniversary! Sounds like you two have it figured out.
    Hubby and I take a walk with the dogs every day and this is a great way to share things with one another. :)

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  89. AnnMarie, thanks for being my newest follower and welcome to my occasional ramblings. I enjoyed getting to know you a bit on your blog this morning and wish you and hubby a very Happy Anniversary. We will be celebrating 48 this Sept. Oh my, where has the time gone, but I am so glad to read that time together is precious to you and yours. Keep it up!

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  90. Happy anniversary, wishing you many more years. My husband and I just celebrated our first! :)

    xo, Yi-chia
    Always Maylee

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  91. happy (belated) anniversary! :D :D good read, thanks for sharing.

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  92. I am sorry that your old bar got too loud, but singing in the new bar sounds like fun! Do you do karoke too? :)

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  93. Happy Anniversary! Sometimes it is good to venture out into new territory. Adds a little more excitement to date night, huh?

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  94. Sounds like a good time.

    Happy anniversary!

    =D

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  95. I am so envy that you have a date night with your hubby 3 times a month. We don't have this practise.

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  96. http://youtu.be/n2MtEsrcTTs
    Harvest Moon...my favorite youtube version!

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  97. Aw, this post really made me smile! It's so nice to hear that you and your husband maintained a healthy and close relationship all these years by taking time for yourselves, and from the sound of it, really enjoyable times at that :)

    Happy 28th wedding anniversary (a little late)!

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  98. Sweet. Change is never easy but I think the music sounds perfect!

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