Thursday, October 11, 2012
To be Misunderstood In Blogging
I remember a long time ago realizing people beat around the bush to try and make a point. Or say things they don't even mean, in a nice way, you know, not to offend or anything. I always thought of myself as a straight shooter. I thought I said what I mean. Sometimes that is good, sometimes not so good. When I write a blog post, I think I am straightforward, I try to be. But I learned from comments and reactions I am not! I will tell you what I mean. I recently wrote a post on 7th grade girls. It was intended to be an innocent, light, humorous observation of human nature and coming of age. I attempted to describe the universality of human interaction as they begin to notice the opposite sex. It was never a finger pointing of any particular girls! That thought never even crossed my mind. I was shocked to learn that is how the post was interpreted. I wrote another post about a young girl being bullied and my son selected to sit next to her. The story was not meant to honor my son, but to illustrate the opposite. Only doing what he had to do, in a nice way, is not enough. Not nearly enough. If this simple blog can be so misinterpreted I cannot even image what it is like to have every word and phrase magnified and dissected for the world to explicate. I think tonight I will give the debaters some slack.
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as the saying goes, you cannot please everybody. i enjoy reading your posts, keep it up :)
ReplyDeleteBlogs, Facebook, texts, tweets...the whole way that we communicate as a society has changed so much. I find myself second guessing texts and emails at times because voice inflections and body language just don't translate to the keyboard.
ReplyDeleteAs for the debate--I'm human and biased so I'll probably only be cutting one of them slack. :)
I do enjoy reading your blog and I'm not sweet talking to you here! I'm being honest. If I misintepret something, oh well, we don't all think alike and that's okay! I have an excuse: language barrier- since I'm Greek. Even though my English is pretty good it's not my native language. Still I don't want to use that as an excuse! Don't forget that people answer according to their beliefs and life's experiences so really cut us some slack unless we become rude! I wouldn't accept that either!
ReplyDeleteGood point about the debates. RE your posts, I find from many comments that some people do entirely miss the point. I think that when people skim through a post that sometimes happens.
ReplyDeletePerhaps if you intend to comment you should make sure that a post is carefully read.
Since I have lost my 'tolerance' for 'Politically Correct' speech and the constant changing of and adding to that never ending list, I find your blog very refreshing.
ReplyDeleteYou will never be able to please those that have bought into the rules of the 'Speech Dictators' where freedom of speech is only allowed if you agree with them and your words will be twisted into something you don't even recognize.
Please don't change a thing about you or your blog. xxxooo
What a provocative post! I believe the only way you can really get your point across is by speaking face to face and looking someone right in the eyes..body language...depth. But even this can be misconstrued.
ReplyDeleteConveying feelings in words is difficult and the reader has to have enough responsibility to consider...they might be "wrong" or at least that they might need to "think" more about it. This is what reading is about...THINKING!
I love your refreshing...to the point...right on...way of writing! LOVE IT!
As both a blog writer and blog reader, I think this is a tricky business. Words written without inflection or a two-way face to face interaction is so easily misinterpreted. As I tend to write from the vantage point of finding humor in about everything, I am always shocked at some of the comments I get pouncing on a point of view that I wouldn't of thought possible from what I wrote.
ReplyDeleteWhat I find equally interesting is the bloggers, like you that seem to be sweet, honest people are sometimes misinterpreted but the bloggers that write scathing rants and seem very angry have hundreds of comments saying things like "you go girl". Why are readers not giving you the benefit of the doubt that you intentions are not mean spirited.
My inner b$tch often battles the flawed Christian in such things, and while I would like to be considerate, empathetic and carefully consider everyone's point of view in such things; it most often simply goes:
ReplyDelete#@#% em if they can't take a joke.
I'm so so weary of explaining and justifying everything that flows from either my mouth, or fingers, to people who feel the need to "Caw Caw" their disapproval like flocking crows. If only Jedi Mind Tricks were real.
I am not the debater you are looking for.
haha! I agree! This was a great post and this is a fabu comment! I just had that happen the other day... posting about fear... for Christians... got a NASTY comment and follow up email. smh... ugh.
DeleteI love your conclusion to this piece. And yes, I suppose it is a version of that "you can't please all of the people all of the time" thing, some folks just won't ever see eye to eye with us, or we with them....
ReplyDeleteMisunderstandings happen from time to time. I have had it happen to me too. Its frustrating to be misunderstood but when writing much communication is left to the imagination. I would suspect that you're not worried about it but rather surprised. I would also say that these types of misunderstandins will continue to happen and possibly open up new dialogue you did not expect. Thanks for posting. I've always wondered if I was misunderstood on my blog as well. Esther Norine Designs
ReplyDeleteYou can't please everyone, be who you are regardless of others. Do they come to read you or a fictitious piece based on you? Keep it up!
ReplyDeleteIf some people took offense to THAT, then they are the ones with the problem. You write very well, and certainly non-offensively.
ReplyDeleteI'm constantly amazed at the way media can twist and cut and paste words to make them seem different. I try to be careful with every word.
ReplyDeleteIt's that whole texting, facebooking, blogging thing - - sometimes it's really really hard to communicate your thoughts when you're not face to face. I think we've all been misunderstood or have misunderstood someone else's written word ourself! But, I do feel your pain!!
ReplyDeletePlease don't stop... I have a friend who closed her blog because of the same thing, and the world lost a little light.
ReplyDeleteI think that it is easy to misunderstand what someone is saying. I have this issue myself from time to time. I am a very sarcastic person. However, my delivery is often very dry, so people think I am being serious--even people who have known me for decades.
ReplyDeleteI really enjoy your posts! People should really get an explanation before jumping to criticism. That is the way I look at the debates. We are looking at these people at that particular moment in time. And, who doesn't make missteps while speaking? For me, I look at the records and the history as well as the debate itself.
Very interesting post. I love it!
ReplyDeleteHi Annmarie...first of all, I think you are a terrific writer, and those who have been coming to your blog for some time understand your writing style and your humor.
ReplyDeleteI love that I can always find food for thought or inspiration when I visit you.
Again, those who "know" you probably would not be confused...
How wise of you to have learned something for yourself as well.
The bullying piece you wrote brought tears to my eyes..
( I "got it" by the way) ;)
Prayers to this young girl...
xoxo,
- Irina
Don't stop blogging, my friend. Keep your eyes on Jesus...the author, perfecter, & finisher of your faith! Blessings, jen
ReplyDeleteI am a new follower and have enjoyed every single one of your posts. Keep doing what you're doing; look how many appreciate it!
ReplyDeleteNancy
It is sometimes hard to understand how to take a post just as it is written, and not hearing the "tone" straight from ones mouth. I think that the ones who come here regularly know your writing style and your sense of humor and weren't the ones offended. Just keep doing what you are doing and don't worry about the rest.
ReplyDeleteHi Annmarie, we can't please everyone. Peoples mouth we cannot zip, there are some who read and assume their own judgement.
ReplyDeleteBlogging suppose to be fun and meet new friends but there are some go all the way out to mock at other blogger and leave sarcastic comments. All this are jealously. Just ignore them and write your own style. Keep up the good work, I do enjoy your posting.
Have a nice week ahead, regards.
This is your blog. Write what you want to write.
ReplyDeleteI see you as very straight forward and I enjoy reading your posts. The problem with the Internet or any form of writing is you cannot see the person facial expression or their body language and misinterpretations do occur. It is sad and can cause a lot of hurt feelings. Even when the proper words are chosen and the sentences and paragraphs are put together skillfully misunderstanding does happen.
ReplyDeleteKeep giving it straight forward, I think most read your blog and understand it in the manner you present it.
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You know what, there will always people who misinterpret, read into and plain just try to be mean. You continue to write what you feel and don't worry about what others might think!
ReplyDeleteat times i think even if we speak face to face, words can also be misinterpreted..i dont know why. you shld just continue with the way you write, your style and that's only the real you :)) have a nice day!
ReplyDeleteMaybe it is because we think differently and have a different inviroment. :)
ReplyDeleteI what we write is often misinterpreted because it is being read instead of listened to. There is no facial expression or inflection in the voice. I do often think the internet is used as a safety net for being rude or unkind; I have never felt that here visiting you. If I can't find something nice to say, I usually keep my mouth closed and my fingers still. I hope you have a wonderful day.
ReplyDeleteThis is your blog and I guess you can say whatever you want to say. If you were to post something by thinking first of what will others might say, then you are not blogging from the heart.
ReplyDeleteKeep the posts coming, Marie! Even if were miles apart, I know you are a good person and a mother that I truly admire :)
Blogging is just like texting, it will never be as understood as speaking. :) I enjoy your blog very much!
ReplyDeleteI'm so looking forward to the debate tonight! Hope it is just as good as the last one! :)
if we are willing to let the words come out we have to be willing to let them be interpreted through the lens of the listener...everyone comes with their own baggage that colors the interpretation...
ReplyDeleteSometimes it is difficult to get your point across in the blog-osphere, It's not always the easiest medium to voice your opinion. But i'm sure you didn't mean to offend or disappoint anyone.
ReplyDeletexo Carlina
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Oh Annmarie, I think that you will always come across this problem from time to time on your blog. Same thing has happened to me a few times. But I just let it be. Actually this is one reason I never post about religion and politics. I don't like reading them either really. That's an area that most people have different opinions so I just stay away!
ReplyDeleteI love your posts. They are always interesting and/or funny. Just keep it up! Love Di ♥
Say what you want in your blog, it belongs to you. I know from experience that each reader will interpret it differently. I think that is what helps to make blog writing interesting.
ReplyDeleteI'm so with you on this Annmarie. I've even looked at comments on my (or other's) blogs and had to think and think some more about what was meant. Everything can be taken either out of context or the wrong way...but, in many cases, I believe it is done intentionally...to get a rise out of someone, or to start a discussion that you really don't want. C'est la vie eh?
ReplyDeleteI sure do understand! Truthfully, I think some people just like to cause friction. If there isn't some drama following them around like a tail, they don't feel alive.
ReplyDeleteMisunderstandings in communication are as old as human communication itself. I love your blog and the stories you share. Thanks!
ReplyDeleteYes, things do get misinterpreted. And yes, I agree with some others that some people just like to debate everything, no matter what you say, they have to have the oppositive view or point out some flaw in your reasoning. I write a newspaper column and without fail I get the same thing. My editor calls them 'trolls', people who come out of the woodwork just to disagree or voice their opinion. Most of them don't even fully read the column! That shows they are just out to cause some drama. Ignore them. Speak your truth. I hope this helps. xx
ReplyDeleteI've never visited your blog until today, but this post has made me a follower. I've run into the very same thing a time or two before while blogging. (not to mention while speaking!)... I decided long ago that honesty and truthfulness go a long way until one had to look directly into the mirror. If it rattles a cage or generates negative response... it probably touched a nerve. It's always healthy to take a good clear look in the mirror, every once in a while!
ReplyDeletekeep writing! Dixie
It is also hard sometimes to communicate your feelings on the side you may feel is right, especially when it differs from the majority. I feel this generation has been cultivated not to step on toes to such a point we've turned into a luke warm majority. I have found myself on the other side of the line not because most disagreed with my position but they felt it was more important to spare a subset of the majority's feelings. I think we should always strive for the truth and to temper it with love so they understand there is good intent behind the words. Mastering effective communication does not always equate to agreement. Keep posting! :-)
ReplyDeleteYou're safe with me - it would need to be an extraordinarily sharp comment to pierce my thick skin!
ReplyDeletePeople will always have different opinions. We can't please everybody. Rule of thumb i follow... I will be honest in what i write... Period. Keep posting!
ReplyDeleteWell said. I say speak your mind, it's your blog! :)
ReplyDeleteI always think your posts are straight forward. I love it. I'm so fed up with "politically correct" crap because, frankly, it gets to be more insulting than anything!
ReplyDeleteYou can't please people all of the time, just some people most of the time.
ReplyDeletePeople's comments on blogs have more to say about themselves than they do about the blogger.
ReplyDeleteI still follow the old rule when I make comments. If I can't say something nice...I just don't say anything.
ReplyDeleteI think you are very straight forward when you write. Maybe some folks are too analytical.
Do you think that people just scan over your post, rather than actually read them? It happens to me all the time..
ReplyDeleteJust write what you want to write, and how people understand it, is up to them.
It's hard sometimes to get your point across in the written word - people can't get inflection, hear voice changes, etc. It happens. Don't worry too much about it.
ReplyDeleteGetting ones point across can be rather frustrating when dealing with so many different folks who all have different life experiences. All we can do my dear friend is try our best to speak from our heart and hope we're heard.
ReplyDeleteInteresting Annmarie, on a couple of occasions I too have been misinterpreted. Thankfully not in a bad way at all, just the readers misunderstood my focus and point. So now, I re-read my piece with objectivity and with that thought in mind, and often have clarified a sentence here and there. And the reason I do that is because it's my very 'point' that I'm wanting my readers to 'get'. I hope it mostly works.
ReplyDeleteI think the trouble is that the written word has no facial expression, body language, etc., to help it out. Plus, people bring their own baggage to everything they read or hear.
ReplyDeletePlease don't change! I love your blog and your willingness to address the "elephant in the room" at times. I appreciate your straightforwardness and willingness to go out on a limb.
ReplyDeleteMary Alice
Nice to meet you Annmarie! Thanks for stopping for a visit! WOW, what a fantastic following you have...obviously people LOVE what you have to say and respect that. There is ALWAYS going to be someone who misinterpets or just sees things differently! I think people who offend easily, usually have other issues...they look for confrontation. Don't WORRY...Be YOURSELF! LOL! Great meeting you and looking forward to visiting more! From one sweetie to another~~~Roxie
ReplyDeleteThankyou for your lovely comment that brightened my day:) As many other readers have said, I think you have wise opinions and fair points, and a lovely yet clear way to observe the world, and you should never change!
ReplyDeleteKeep it up, I'm your new follower!
-Tara Alexandra
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I believe - and this counts for me as well - that people get offended not just when they interpret tone incorrectly, but when they feel conviction {pride being bruised} over the content.
ReplyDeleteI really enjoy your writing style. This blog makes me smile and think.
And sometimes I think people just choose to misinterpret. You need to say what you want to say. If you get too overly careful, the intent gets lost and then it's just "politically correct" and meaningless. No matter what we say, someone, somewhere will object or disagree. And that's just the way it is.
ReplyDeleteMy first time here and a very thought-provoking topic! I love it!
ReplyDeleteSome people are going to mistakingly misinterpret another and there are others who seem to have a mission for deliberate antagonism or obfuscation. I try to read back to myself anything I type, because sometimes (and I'll be honest here), I sound far different than I intend to. I'm funny and use sarcasm and irony for the punchline. I have learned to watch it so, if I am misinterpreted, it's not for my lack of trying to think of the reader.
Thank you for coming over to Shona Skye Creations and following along. And thank you for inviting me here! I'm a new follower via RSS.
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I think I'll give the debaters some slack also. It's only fitting since I put my foot in my mouth often enough. I find it best to judge people by their intentions instead of just their words.
ReplyDeleteAhh... good point, good point! I for one, love your writing style here. Keeps me coming back to read more! :)
ReplyDeletebe true to your self...let everyone else figure it out :)
ReplyDeleteI, too enjoy your posts and have not been offended yet.. grin..
ReplyDeleteI enjoy your thoughts. Be who you are. Let their problems be theirs. You can't please them all.
ReplyDeleteOn the other hand, I know exactly what you are going through. I try to word things as not to offend. Often I chose to say nothing rather than have to worry about what someone thinks. Not sure which is the right approach. Do what is best for you and say "oh well" to the rest of the world. There's an old saying, "d*med if you do, d*med if you don't."
Sam
Unfortunately, or fortunately, everything we say is open to interpretation. Being misunderstood sucks though.
ReplyDeleteI totally relate to your post :-/
ReplyDeleteI agree!! I often speak my mind or the truth. It gets me into trouble! :)
ReplyDeletePart of the challenge of writing is to put something out there for the readers. Sometimes reactions from readers can be surprising. Not to worry. It's a two way conversation. I find the comments really expand what I had been thinking in the first place.
ReplyDeleteThe thing that everyone (including me) forgets is that everyone (including me) reads and processes based on their own experience and their own prospective.
ReplyDeleteWith that in mind, it's easier to see how things can get misconstrued and misunderstood.
Totally know what you mean... we always have to walk on eggshells at work... you never know when someone is going to take something you say the wrong way!!!
ReplyDeleteI think it has been said well - without the inflections of speech, body language and eye contact, it is often easy to misunderstand the meaning. Having said that, I also believe some people are just "upset looking for a place to happen"...and I say that from personal experience! I think your writing style is very clear, and I love coming to visit you!
ReplyDeleteThere will always be people that will use a comment post for their own means. Be it ,to be noticed,make their own point, or just to argue. We enjoy that we get to know you, not what people feel you should be. I love reading your post.
ReplyDeleteMy daughter says that I don't have a "filter" anymore since my wife died. I try very hard not to offend anyone in my blog, but sometimes I get comments from readers who either didn't "get" my drift, or missed my humor, or just were being argumentative. Thus, when I comment on other blogs, I truly try to make sure my "filter" is working, but sometimes I either offend or miss the drift myself. Such is the life of the blogger! I appreciate your straightforwardness and your ability to see humor in almost every situation. Keep at it. You're doing a great job of writing.
ReplyDeleteAhhh to be misunderstood.. It's so common because some people are just bad at understanding! :) Keep up the blogging lady, we love it!
ReplyDeleteLordy I can relate to this post 100%, I can't count the times I have said one thing but got replies total opposite of what I was trying to put out.
ReplyDeleteI say things to my wife and the look of confusion on her face tell me that I must have mixed my words again, or else she is just messing with me.
Keep shooting straight because sometimes we actually hit the target :)
I think this is a common occurrence in society nowadays. Social media has indeed changed the way we connect with people and I think we, as a whole, still are in the process of trying to understand the points of view of other people as well. As long as you're not offending anyone, then by all means, speak your mind. =)
ReplyDeleteP.S. Thanks for visiting. Followed you back. =)
Let them thonk what they like. If they wanted to twist and misinterpret your words there is nothing you can do about it
ReplyDeleteIt is hard sometimes to express simply - and simply express - exactly what we mean. Ah well. As one of your other commenters has said, it's a two-way conversation. :)
ReplyDeleteAnnmarie... All any of us can do is to be true to one's self and our beliefs. If someone misinterprets what we mean when we offer our viewpoint or write a light hearted observation of life as we see it...too bad! As for the politicians...in the end, it's what they do or don't do that matters...not so much the 'stuff' they rattle on about during the election process. Take Care, Big Daddy Dave
ReplyDeleteI agree with Jenny and Juli. People bring their own experiences to what they read. You never know what people have been through or where they're coming from. You can only speak what's true for you. And they'll do the same. It can't be avoided. I'm not for being rude or hurtful...that's a different issue. But sharing your thoughts...people will take what they want from it.
ReplyDeleteBest to be honest in your writing then to beat around the bush. Either way not everyone will like your words or interpret the way you intended. I'm a new follower. Please check me out @
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I love reading your posts. First, post for yourself. I think your writing style is thought provoking and sometimes humorous. I think that no matter how you phrase something or what you write about, the reader may interpret your post differently than the next.
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Isn't this the truth? I was thinking something similar. There have been many times, I've been leading a meeting and stuck my foot in my mouth...not even realizing it. Sometimes the best intentions aren't enough. It's hard to get past the ear of a judgmental listener.
ReplyDeleteI truly enjoy what you write my friend, so, write on.
ReplyDeleteI like your blog.
ReplyDeleteWaiting for your new post. :)
P.S. What do you think about following each other?
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the final interpretation of your words, remain with the reader... this kinda thing's happened to me too.
ReplyDeleteI completely understand where you're coming from. I heard along the grapevine that some ladies from a local home education group I was attending were criticising my parenting based on some innocuous statement I'd made in a blog post about discipline. It was a horrible feeling to know I was being gossiped about and criticised by some anonymous people who I barely knew. And to hear about it second-hand too! I'm now ultra careful about what I write about, and I rarely attend the group any more as I don't know who I can trust.
ReplyDeleteYou are right, how often do people not misunderstand us when we are talking to them in person and so much gets lost when we write … it would be wise for us to always remember that, no matter how we communicate
ReplyDeleteFunny you would say that. For awhile I wasn't sure what you and I had in common. We are extreme opposites politically, you have 8 kids I have 0, etc, etc. I wasn't sure (selfish me) what I could glean from your posts. Eventually I came to appreciate the fact that you really are a straight shooter. You call it as you see it and it ain't always pretty. Most of your followers probably got it, they were likely just trying to find something good in the situation.
ReplyDeleteMy primary blog's topics and comments rarely gain much negativity--but, my other web writings bring out all sorts of nastiness in the comments. Every reader brings their own interpretations and some are just looking for controversy--and add some when there isn't any. Just read the comments and smile----someone is reading and considers your work valid enough for time spent on comments! Have a great weekend!
ReplyDeleteMy husband and I were just talking about this last night regarding the vice presidential debates. People definitely interpret things differently.
ReplyDeleteJust like watching a movie, some people will rave and others will rant. Also, sometimes to hear things with inflection and emphasis works better than the written word...if that makes sense! ;)
ReplyDeleteSorry you have misunderstood.
ReplyDeleteHi AnnMarie, Thank you for reading my blog and becoming a follower. Your opinions and comments are good reading. I dont think our debaters need slack though. I think they should take the importance of the debates much more seriously. LJ
ReplyDeleteI blame all the ridiculous "life scripts" the media and experts keep putting out: "What to say/not say to anyone who has experienced one of a thousand different things." We seem to be creating a zero tolerance world for anything or anyone we don't agree with. I don't want to be part of an agenda that creates humorless, one-sided drones. Lively discussion is my game, and I will only play it with people willing to venture away from the bland, publicly sanctioned pre-approved script. Hang in there! I'll meet you for coffee some day!
ReplyDeletei have always enjoyed my visits here. i am not a regular reader but remember some light hearted, funny entries from you!!
ReplyDeleteit's your blog, write what you want, you write very well!!
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Different people think differently and I agree, it really is very difficult to be misundertood. I always enjoy your posts. I learn a lot and get entertained at the same time. :)
ReplyDeleteUnless you have a button that you click so others can hear the intonation of your voice, or rolling of eyes, there are some who will totally misunderstand the simplest of things.
ReplyDeleteI wouldn't worry about it. Some people are just quick to jump to conclusions.
ReplyDeleteI think it is a failing of human communication. No matter what you do or how sincere and honest you are, each person interprets each other person's communications. It doesn't matter if it is in person or on paper. That's just life. When the majority of people seem to have a close interpretation of what you tried to express--that is a successful communication, I guess. But all you can do is be true to yourself and toss it out there. That's all any of us can do. People interpret through all their own filters of belief, experience, knowledge, temperament, prejudices...or what mood they are in that day. I wouldn't let them worry you. Famous writer's works are debated over in colleges every day. You, obviously, had a lot of readers who understood what you were saying. Kudos! Keep writing!! :) :) :)
ReplyDeleteYes. Blogging certainly thought me much about life.
ReplyDeleteMy thoughts are if they don't understand what you have written they can politely ask for clarification. If they don't like what you have written then they shouldn't come to your blog and leave a comment. They should just move on. After all, it is your blog not theirs. Anyway, that is how I feel about those that misunderstand. Some people just can't think outside the box and don't stop to think about what they are about to say. ~Ames
ReplyDeleteIt does not matter what we say, or how we say it... as it is a written narrative someone will always read it in an entirely different light.
ReplyDeleteI have been guilty of reading something and taking offence where none was intended, just as people have read my blog and done the same thing.
It is what it is.
The problem with the written word is you can't 'see' inflections and emphasis,you only have the one sense to work with suddenly your hearing is of no value and there is no body language to see. Using only one sense to interpret something can be quite hard for us as we were given all of our senses to work together in unity. I know that when I write something I say it in my head and 'hear' myself at the same time (yes you can interpret that as me being crazy if you so wish) So although I am reading it correctly to myself as I speak as I write...someone else may read it very differently. It is never intended to be misinterpreted but without other sense at work it is interpreted in a way that first came to us. Wow...the more I think about using only one sense the harder this is to explain so I hope you know what I mean.
ReplyDeleteYeah.. it's interesting how people interpret things. I sometimes think there is a breed that purposly looks for the negative in things and then like to expound on it. I don't have time for people like that. I ignore them.
ReplyDeleteThanks for visiting me. I enjoy your posts.
I love your life comments. It's like you just had a minute to call me on the phone to say hello...and how are you.. Oh, this is what I've been thinking about...(insert post story here)... and I reply oh, yes, that is interesting and I see it this way. Then we laugh, chuckle or LOL and say, ok, see you later friend. Friends are fun because they open our experiences to more, better and best thinking.
ReplyDeleteI know exactly what you mean. Sometimes we are very clear in our own head about what we are meaning to communicate but that unfortunately is the problem. "In our own head", lol, when it meets someone else's that's when the clarity either stands or falls down.
ReplyDeleteWe all have our own unique voice and I think we should respect each other's differences. As writers we must write first and edit later; however, when we edit we must ensure our message is still intact. Regardless if someone took the message wrong or not, that is on that person. Regardless to how much you change the message I believe there is bound to be someone who will disagree or take the message in a manner that you did not intend it. Continue to be the best you that you can be.
ReplyDeleteI hear you. It is not just the written word, but the things we say as well. Oh, how many times have I been on the defensive because people got my words differently, or how many times have I been offended over somebody's innocuous words.
ReplyDeleteMoral of the story is, as you say, cutting people some slack for things they say unless they obviously intended to be mean. :)
~Imelda
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ReplyDeleteI like this quote from Joy Page.
ReplyDeleteAfter an eternity of seeking the sudden threshold of seeing and finding leaves one filled with a strange paradox of ecstasy and grief. I was born to see.
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ReplyDeleteAMEN!! So many people read too much into things I'm like you, I say what I think, I mean what I say. I shouldn't have to spend 10 minutes explainting every though because some one wants to pick it apart. AUGH
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