Thursday, November 8, 2012
Women Lost A Battle
My heart is so heavy. Planned parenthood swept this election. 3,322 abortions per DAY are accepted and condoned, and will be paid for by people who work and pay taxes. I cannot be ok with this. I have seen my own ultrasounds of the tissue that was a human being. Society names that human being other things; fetus, tissue, blob, to make it easier to get rid of. Fast. This is easy to arrange, and women are waiting and eager to help. Just get the procedure, worry about it later. Bury the guilt. Rationalize. Stay so busy at work, you don't have time or energy to think. Try drinking or pills to sleep better. Run marathons to sleep better. Obsess over your vegan menu. Maybe go back to school, get smarter, just stay distracted. That is key. Keep the radio on, the tv on, noise gives you something to listen to and focus on. But you still cannot hide. The back pain is a needed distraction, and so much easier to deal with than the truth. The headaches, palpitations, stomach problems... physical symptoms attempt to suppress the emotional pain, keep it buried, keep you from thinking, knowing, regretting. Easier all around. But the mom knows... deep down buried inside your mind and heart, that was life. Yes, the vote was a vote for revenge, just like the president said. Revenge for those circumstances, revenge for a uterus that makes you want a relationship with sex, revenge that he used your body for his pleasure, revenge that you feel you have to choose between your life and the life of another inside you. And that is the real war on women.
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How is an abortion payed for by tax dollars? Planned Parenthood makes you pay to have one.
ReplyDeleteThe government uses tax payers money to fund the clinics. Employees are paid through part of that money. If the government supports the clinics and gives them money to stay open, then we are paying to keep those abortions happening.
DeleteAbsolutely true. Plus, the clinics do not perform mammograms. The few other services they provide can be obtained anywhere. Women eligible for gov't funding can, and often do, obtain all services they need, except abortion, at places other than PP! PP exists in order to provide abortions, they are by far the largest abortion provider in the world.
Deleteactually no tax money is used for abortions, it is not allowed. and planned parenthood is actually about planning parenthood and helping underprivileged women get health care. they do pap smears, education, medication, etc.
DeleteIf tax money is going into PP for ANY reason, even to just pay for the receptionists and stuff, that's money that PP doesn't have to pay those workers with and can put TOWARDS abortion services. So. Even if not DIRECTLY going to the abortion, it still IS allowing abortions to keep happening.
DeleteYou say tomato, I say to-mah-to...
PP does in fact receive gov't aid and our tax money for abortion services: I know, because when I made an appointment for one, they accepted my state issued insurance which was paid for by - wait for it - tax dollars. I only had to give a $12 co-pay.
DeleteThankfully, God opened my heart/eyes the day before it was supposed to take place, and I am in complete awe at how my life has been spared, healed and BLESSED by my sweet child.
Jenny - so brave to tell that story!! <3
DeleteWe are in a sad way. It all breaks my heart.
ReplyDelete((HUGS))
Love the post Ann Marie!!! Inspiring words :)
ReplyDeleteSince I am Canadian, I will have to read up a bit on this issue in your recent election. I'm not familiar with all the details.
ReplyDeleteHowever, as a Christian and a mother, I could never choose to kill my baby. As a woman, I am somewhat, in a very conflicted manner, thankful to have a choice. I know my choice, and I try not to judge another for having a different choice. But I have certainly known women who have come to regret and down-spiral just as you've described. "but what if you were raped?" is such a BS justification because the majority of the time abortion is used as just another from of birth control. And it would surprise the crap out of you to know how many women use it more than once.
And because you are going to ask me how I know this -- it's because I worked for a Government Agency which kept track of Abortion statistics for each Abortion Clinic in Canada. So I know.
I know all too well what this world throws away. And freedom of choice aside, it deeply saddens me that those who fight so hard to uphold freedom: cannot offer it to the most innocent and vulnerable among us; or rather, within us.
I am horrified and filled with sorrow. My heart can barely contain the grief I feel on behalf of the victims that are murdered by their mother's that you just condoned by calling it a choice.
Deleteno, no...not condone.
DeleteFree will exists in this world - there's nothing I can do about that. If God has not taken it away, neither can I.
Believe me - It sorrows my heart too.....but it's simply not my place to judge them. That choice - because it IS a choice that they make, is between them and God. My job is to show them His unfailing love. No matter how horrified I may personally be.
Very well said. Excellent post. Love, Mikey
ReplyDeleteisn't planned parenthood partially funded by us, the taxpayers?
ReplyDeleteThank you for this post - I totally agree and I am mortified that under Obama Care we ALL will be paying for abortions. I"m a Canadian married to an American (I live in the states with my husband) & in Canada we can choose whether our property taxes go towards Public schools or Catholic schools. Why doesn't the USA do something like that with abortion & contraception - have each income tax payer click a box on our yearly income taxes - "pro-life" or "pro-choice". This country is totally divided in half - make only that pro-choice half pay for abortions! I'm sick of all this "political correctness" junk - they say that we have to be accepting of all religions - well this goes against every grain of my Christian beliefs - HOW IS THAT NOT POLITICALLY INCORRECT??!!!! (sorry - now I'm upset).
ReplyDeleteThanks again for this post.
Angie
godsgrowinggarden.com
Amen!
DeleteThe tax dollars taken out of your paychecks that goes to Federal helps fund them. Among other taxes you pay. And not all women have to pay for an abortion with Planned Parenthood
ReplyDeleteThat hurts me so much too. Those people who consider an abortion need to watch "Silent Scream". I doubt they would call the baby a blob after that.
ReplyDeleteIt is a very difficult to judge what is right or wrong. Not all women have motherly instincts and when they are forced to have a baby it's the baby who pays the bill. Neglected, forgotten, beaten, killed etc. So what is better ? I think each woman should have the choice. We just had the case again of a newborn baby found in the woods. Dead of course. We also have "drawers" in certain hospitals, where mothers can put unwanted babies anonymous, who then have the chance to be adopted by loving parents. I don't think of the women I think of the unwanted children and what a cruel life they often have !
ReplyDeleteI completely agree, Gattina. Thank you for speaking up.
DeleteBut why not take RESPONSIBILITY for your actions and have the child and if you aren't ready/meant to be a parent, give it to a couple who would adore the baby? My sister is adopted. I'm glad her mother didn't choose abortion...
DeleteHolly- I wish it was as easy as healthy, wanted babies being born and given to deserving families, but in many cases, that's not what happens. And since there's no way to be sure that every child ends up in a loving, nurturing home, why risk giving that child a life of hardships?
DeleteYou could adopt it
DeleteAnnmarie, I understand what your saying and not being of the fair (and tougher) gender, I obviously don't have as much say on this topic...but, what about the fact that women voted overwhelmingly for another 4 years of the same 'leadership'? Confused and dazed, Big Daddy Dave
ReplyDeleteThis issue has been on my mind as well... it's unreal. Blows me away.
ReplyDeleteIt really is heartbreaking, isn't it?
ReplyDeleteAll we can do is pray that science and technology will help to open people's eyes to the life that is there from conception on. Pray.
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ReplyDeleteJen, We as women have the "right to choose" what to eat for breakfast or lunch, what kind of car to drive, what house to live in, or who to be friends with. But our Sovereign and Almight God, the Creator of this universe, is the ONLY one who has the "right to choose" LIFE. Aren't you thankful to wake up this morning and know that He chose to give it to you?
DeletePLANNED PARENTHOOD DOES NOT DO MAMOGRAMS. CALL ANY OF THEM. ASK.
DeletePP does not perform mammograms!! Obama flat out lied. Call and ask any PP center. And read the books written by former PP leadership members, you will learn that the "birth control" (funny, no birth and no control) is part of a strategy designed to increase abortions - increase risky sexual activity, increase unwanted pregnancies, increase abortion.
DeleteI am SO sick of hearing that Republicans are trying to tell women what to do with their bodies. You know what? Nobody tells women what to do with their bodies, which is why there are STDs and unwanted babies in the first place. Secondly, the issue is NOT only about women because that baby is 50% from the male. Abortion is NOT only a women's issue. Thirdly, nobody is trying to tell women what to do with their bodies, they are trying to tell them what not to do with a different body, that, although they created it, is not their own, but someone else's!
DeleteWell said, Holly!
Deletethe government does indeed tell us already what we can do with our bodies. prostitution is illegal.
DeleteNo pro-life person ever "tells women what to do with their bodies." That is a pro-abortion sound bite. The question is what to do with the BABIES' bodies. All we ask is let the body of the baby alone to grow and live in the same way women (and all people) want others to leave them and their bodies alone. A baby is its own person and its own body, not a "part" of someone else's body. Just look at all the mothers who have given birth - they are not missing any "parts" of their own bodies.
DeletePeople need to stop listening to talking points and DO THE RESEARCH.
ReplyDeleteWomen can’t walk into a Planned Parenthood clinic and get a mammogram on the spot. The clinics don’t have mammography equipment. Planned Parenthood performs gynecological exams, including breast exams, and refers women to other facilities to have mammograms performed, much like women are referred to radiological centers by their gynecologists or primary care physicians.
Romney was NOT trying to take these rights away. Nobody ever said those words. Those were things that the Obama administration put out there to fool women who don't read up on their own to get more votes.
Amen, Mimi!
DeleteThis is exactly right. Please, people, do the research! Make an appointment even so you can experience it firsthand.
Heartbroken...
ReplyDeleteOnly under extreme circumstances would I ever believe it was okay for an abortion. Rape is an exception. HOWEVER, have you seen what a baby looks like when the abortion takes place? Basically they snip it, cut it and kill it like it never mattered at all. This is something I feel STRONGLY about. NEVER is it okay, NEVER should you kill a human being. If you don't have "motherly instincts" there is always adoption. Or maybe.. you shouldn't be having sex at all if you can't deal with having a child. I voted for Romney.
ReplyDeleteWhy does rape make murder okay? Is that when two wrongs make a right? What if a woman births a child and shortly after his father rapes her? The child's father is a rapist, every time she looks at her child she sees the face of the man who raped her. Would abortion be okay then? If not, what the child was accidently conceived in consensual sex, but the father raped her while she was pregnant? Is it okay then? What if that scenarion happened and the woman doesn't know if the conception happened when they had consensual sex or when he raped her shortly thereafter? Is it okay to abort if the child "might have been conceived in rape?
DeleteAnnmarie, I'm with you, Momma. Lord, please come quickly!
ReplyDeleteI didnt realize women who chose abortion were Vegans.
ReplyDeleteTara
http://tarabelle-adropofink.blogspot.com/
Me either. I'm going to miss those burgers...
DeleteI bet everyone who is glad they have a choice is glad they were born.
ReplyDeleteYes! I would be willing to bet that too, Sarah. :)
DeleteNor necessarily.
DeleteMy heart is very heavy at the continued existance of Planned Parenthood. What kind of society are we that think this is a women's right issue rather than a right to life issue. ABortion is murder, clear and simple. A fetus is a life, that breathes and grows and has a soul. We are certianly not the society that God wants us to be.
ReplyDeleteso well said...I think most women who abort will someday choose life and it is then they realize the miracle they have and the one they chose not to have...and that's when they become believers in life
ReplyDeleteI love your heart for life. Bless you for living your faith so openly and for writing today. There is so much blood on this country's hands. There are consequences. They are coming.
ReplyDeleteFirst: Republicans portray Planned Parenthood as primarily focused on performing abortions and – intentionally or not – using American taxpayer dollars to do it.
ReplyDeleteThe group's 800-plus health centers nationwide provide an array of services, from screenings for cancer to testing for sexually transmitted diseases. Abortion is just one of many procedures, and the law bars Planned Parenthood from using tax money for it.
Second: The Affordable Care Act (or as some of your commenters prefer to label as "ObamaCare" because this is what Fox News wants to call it) has several sections. You can read the full law online at healthcare.gov and see for yourself. Highlights:
Title I. Quality, Affordable Health Care for All Americans
Title II. The Role of Public Programs
Title III. Improving the Quality and Efficiency of Health Care
Title IV. Prevention of Chronic Disease and Improving Public Health
Title V. Health Care Workforce
Title VI. Transparency and Program Integrity
Title VII. Improving Access to Innovative Medical Therapies
Title VIII. Community Living Assistance Services and Supports Act (CLASS Act)
Title IX. Revenue Provisions
Title X. Reauthorization of the Indian Health Care Improvement Act
With regard to abortions, in the state of Massachusetts (which is the basis for the Affordable Care Act) we have seen that the number of abortions has in fact decreased despite predictions that health-care reform would have the opposite effect.
Additionally, your commenters concerned that the Affordable Care Act will fund abortions should read this: http://dpc.senate.gov/healthreformbill/healthbill18.pdf
In short 1) health plans cannot be required to cover abortion. 2) no federal funds can be used for abortion coverage or abortion care 3) No preemption of state or federal laws governing abortion and 4) the bill does nothing to restrict or expand abortion law.
Finally, I would like to say that Roe vs. Wade is LEGAL in this country. The fact that ideologically, you disagree, does not give anyone the right to shame a woman once she has made an educated decision on what she would like to do with her life.
I want to add that I myself would never choose this route in a hypothetical world and if I were a different sex. But I support a woman's freedom to choose as long as that choice is educated.
Excellent, informative response!
DeleteBut this is misleading in that while "federal" funding may not pay for abortions, state funds {including state funded healthcare plans} do. So yes, we all pay for abortion. And I agree ~ women who receive abortions should not be shamed, but usually the choice is not an educated one and the after effects - though aparent years later - are grievous at least and debilitating at worst.
DeleteAbortion heals no one and teaches lessons often better left unlearned.
The blog post from Ann Marie above is referring to the federal "national" election.
DeleteI thank you for your post. I firmly believe so many are blinded by words that sound good but are so wrong on every level. I'm a christian and know without a shadow of doubt Christ would choose LIFE and so being a christian that is what I am suppose to do.
ReplyDeleteMy heart is as heavy as yours Annmarie. I cry for our country and the babies who will never see it.
ReplyDeleteHi Annmarie,
ReplyDeleteMy heart is grieving too. I just can't imagine how angry God is but I know He is in control and there is a plan in motion that we do not fully understand.
Blessings,
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Just sad...
ReplyDeleteinteresting how obama won the catholic vote...
ReplyDeletei seriously dont think god is on the side of the republicans either...because politics is not a one issue argument...
I am still torn.
ReplyDeleteI would never COULD never do it. After carrying my three babies and feeling them move inside me. They are a miracle to be fought for - no matter what the circumstances or the cost. I am not religious or Republican or anything. I am just me. But I am not anyone else - and I can't say what they can or can't do.
Your post moved me tremendously.
I have been reading the comments with great interest. I think a woman should be allowed the privilege of making up her own mind. I am not in favor of paying for it though with my taxes.
ReplyDeleteGrieving with you.
ReplyDeleteThe Government should have nothing to do with this. No reasonable person is pro abortion. No one should be encouraged to have one, or be allowed to use abortion as birth control. But this choice should remain with the woman, her family and her religion. If Conservatives really want small government, stay out of people's bedrooms.
ReplyDeleteExcellent post! Thanks for being strong and telling it like it is. I am a Christian, and when anyone takes the view that a woman should have her rights, the first question that comes to my mind is what about the rights of the baby growing inside of her, quite literally trapped inside of her, with no escape if the woman decides to take that poor baby's life. Gosh, have we "advanced" that much that we are now unwilling to protect the life inside of us that is counting on us to protect he/she with their life? Sure, we've "advanced".
ReplyDeleteLife should be about choices and consequences. When someone chooses to have unprotected sex they should be prepared for the consequences, possibly a pregnancy. If an unwanted pregnancy occurs make it better and place the baby for adoption. I have a daughter that has been waiting for 7 years to adopt a baby. Make her day!
ReplyDeleteWe need to deal with problems in a way that will allow us to live with ourselves.
"I want to live with myself and so I have to be fit for my self to know". This little rhyme just came to mind, I'm sure there is more to it but I think what it is trying to say is clear.
Thank you for a thoughtful post. Thank you for being willing to voice your opinion--when it may not be popular. I voted for Romney. I am happy to say I am Mormon!
I was brought to my knees in tears on Tuesday night. I will always vote for life. You can call it women's rights or a fetus or whatever makes you feel better, but it is still life. It is sad that it is a crime to abuse an animal but totally accepted to abort a human baby. (Let me just say, I would never abuse my pets, either). We can only take one day at a time and continue to respect life and teach the respect of life.
ReplyDeleteI know people are saying that we should "Stay out of their bedrooms". But I consider it being an advocate for an innocent child that can't speak for themselves.
ReplyDeleteReally inspiring.
ReplyDeleteI haven't been following your elections. But I certainly feel your pain through reading this. As one who has carried that guilt and pain for years until I found Gods grace and forgiveness. reading now I walk in freedom, an informed decision needs to include those painful feelings of guilt and real loss. We were designed to create not destroy. Xxx
ReplyDeleteMost of these comments make it sound like it's a black and white issue: either you're an archaic religious zealot or you're a murderous sex fiend. I was born and raised Catholic and while I would not choose abortion for myself, I do support the right to choose. I think if some of you Christians had raised a child who ended up with an unwanted pregnancy, you wouldn't exactly have been saying "Well, this is your consequence." Maybe you would have even ushered them quietly to the nearest clinic in order to save face. Some of you might have even had a child who HAD an unwanted pregnancy, but you have no idea because they dealt with it in a private manner. I'm sure you're saying "No way, not me," but unless you were with your children 24 hours a day, you can not say with 100% certainty.
ReplyDeleteI agree with Gattina's comment above- not all adults are fit to be parents. Children should not be forced through a lifelong punishment because of it. It's easy to say that adoption is the answer, but it's just not. Just because a woman delivers a baby doesn't mean she's going to have the child's best interests in mind. What if that baby was born with addictions, was being raised in a life of drugs or prostitution? That's hardly the life I'd want to live. And since we can't force people to be good, loving parents, it's not worth the risk in my opinion.
As for the services Planned Parenthood offers, it's more than just abortions. In my twenties, when I had no insurance and no money to go to a regular doctor's office, I would receive exams and birth control from Planned Parenthood. Due to a medical condition I have called endometriosis, birth control pills helped to regulate my cycles and minimize the pain I was experiencing. Without those services, I would have been making my condition worse.
As a country whose own name serves as a reminder that we are "united", shouldn't we be thinking of everyone's best interests, not just our own? Having tried to get pregnant for some time now, I know how precious a life is. But bringing an unwanted baby to term just for the sake of "life" doesn't seem like a very motherly or caring act if you ask me.
So a motherly or caring act would be to kill your own child? Hmmmm....
DeleteWhen faced with the alternatives stated above, yes.
DeleteI totally agree with you! Women need to have the right to choose and it's really no one's business what a women decides. The fact that the USA even still has this debate is unbelievable...perhaps your country has more in common with the anti-woman laws of the middle east than you would like to admit. Also...if Mitt Romney had won, nothing would have changed. Wake up and start teaching your children about birth control and maybe this will stop many of the unwanted pregnancies.
DeleteI also used planned parenthood for birth control while young and insurance-free. And, like you, it was to control medical problems, not because I was having sex.
DeleteI know a woman who had 2 boys, and horrible pregnancies. The 2nd almost killed her and she was told not to have more children. Very into church and family, what you would consider to be a good person. She ended up pregnant again, however, and chose abortion over the risk of ending her own life. Many would say to be a good mom would be to choose your child's life over your own; what about her 2 boys that were already here and alive? Should they have had to suffer because of an accidental pregnancy? I am sure they thank God that she was able to make that choice.
Who's best interest is it in to have an abortion? The mother's? Well, what about the baby's best interest? I can tell you right now that there are NO babies who are unwanted. There are people looking EVERY day to adopt a child because they don't have the privilege of conceiving. Conception is a PRIVILEGE. Why not take RESPONSIBILITY for your actions? My sister was adopted and I'm thankful that her birth mother did not choose abortion...
DeleteSo according to Holly, the "correct" choice in Katie's scenario is for the woman to die and to leave two children -- who had already been born -- motherless.
DeleteBy that way of thinking, women are merely vessels for producing children, and the "rights" of the unborn child trump the rights of the woman carrying it.
By that way of thinking, we should all be unemployed, barefoot in the kitchen, and not allowed to vote because all that logic and rhetoric could give us a case of the vapors. We'll just leave it all up to the men to decide! You know, cause they're so much smarter than us. (sarcasm, folks.)
And by the way, conception is what happens when a sperm fertilizes an egg. It is not a privilege, its a BIOLOGICAL FUNCTION.
The woman who had the abortion in the above situation WAS being responsible. She chose to live so she could raise her sons.
As usual, your post is spot on. Grieving with you today, and thanking God I didn't exercise my "choice" to abort.
ReplyDeleteI agree with this down to the deep depth of my soul so much so that I called my mom today crying again about this exact subject and how because of who we voted back in we will continue to pay for killing life with our taxes. But bigger than this, we have to make a voice out there to those that have done this and say to them Jesus forgives and you can go from here and make RIGHT choices right down to the vote you make. I told my mom love is action and I can keep running my mouth about this subject and having an opinion or get out there and show God's love to someone who may be hurting because of this matter or help someone to make the choice to give life instead of end one. I pray where the Lord wants me in this. THIS matters to our Lord, THIS matters more than any other issue, THIS is the ISSUE of why our nation is in the state it is in.
ReplyDeleteDid I talk too much? Sorry.....
Giving people choices is a tricky thing because they won't always make the right one. But it's right and good that people are able to choose. What's not right is that taxpayers help fund what they don't believe in. You can't force people to make good decisions, and tragedies will occur in the form of abortions or bad parenting no matter what we do. But bottom line, we should all take responsibility for our actions and choices instead of making government responsible.
ReplyDeleteI'm pretty sure your taxes pay for thousands of things that you don't really believe in.
DeleteI am pro choice. I think that as fully functioning adults, we should have the last and only say over what happens with our bodies, and to say otherwise firmly places women as second-class citizens. You will NEVER find legislation or a movement that would restrict or regulate men's reproduction. That being said, I don't think I could get an abortion. But women deserve the choice.
ReplyDeleteIf you really, truly want to see the abortion rate plummet, women need access to affordable birth control. In several studies, the link has been proven: In areas (and countries) where birth control is free, the abortion rates drop dramatically.
See: http://esciencenews.com/articles/2012/10/04/abortion.rates.plummet.with.free.birth.control
According to the study's lead author: "Unintended pregnancy remains a major health problem in the United States, with higher proportions among teenagers and women with less education and lower economic status. The results of this study demonstrate that we can reduce the rate of unintended pregnancy and this is key to reducing abortions in this country."
Furthermore, making abortion illegal does nothing to lower the abortion rate. It just makes them more dangerous. http://thinkprogress.org/health/2012/01/19/407155/no-link-between-restrictive-abortion-laws-abortin-rates/?mobile=nc
If you're interested, here's a really interesting blog post from a former pro-life supporter: http://www.patheos.com/blogs/lovejoyfeminism/2012/10/how-i-lost-faith-in-the-pro-life-movement.html
But it is no longer a choice with "what happens to OUR bodies..." When a baby is made, it is a choice of what you do with someone else's body!
DeleteIt is a CHOICE. I'm not advocating abortion. I'm advocating the right to choose. What people do with that choice is their own business.
DeleteBut if you really want to eliminate abortion, the key is access to affordable birth control.
Studies have shown that banning abortion does NOTHING to cut the abortion rate. Access to birth control DOES.
That is exactly right monkey momma. If all of these people on here so disgusted with all of these "murdered babies" really cared about the babies, they would advocate for things that actually REDUCE the number of abortions. Shouldn't that be the goal? Or is the goal really about making promiscuous women pay the consequences of thier actions? Sadly, it seems some of the loudest protesters about a woman's right to choose are really more interested in shaming women for getting pregnant in the first place than they are in preventing the unwanted pregnancy (which reduces abortions) in the first place.
DeleteBTW, I'm a Christian AND I'm Pro-Choice, contrary to what you hear from the loudest, most outspoken people on the issue, it does exist.
My thoughts exactly, Jess! A ton of it seems geared to punishing women for having sex, even within marriage. I laugh when I try to imagine a world where men were treated with the same hypocrisy.
DeleteI can't comment because I don't want to cause trouble or offend anyone
ReplyDeleteGreat post. I am SO sick of hearing that Republicans are trying to tell women what to do with their bodies. You know what? Nobody tells women what to do with their bodies, which is why there are STDs and unwanted babies. Secondly, the issue is NOT only about women because that baby is 50% from the male. Abortion is NOT only a women's issue. Thirdly, nobody is trying to tell women what to do with their bodies, they are trying to tell them what not to do with a different body, that, although they created it, is not their own, but someone else's!
ReplyDeleteUntil that baby can survive on its own outside of the womb, it is absolutely dictating what a women must do with her body.
DeleteI do not understand why women use abortion as a means of birth control. It is not just a piece of tissue or blob, it is a little soul. I don't know what our world has come to, but may God have mercy on us. Between my two daughters and daughter inlaw, they have suffered 6 miscarriages. I know I have six grandbabies in heaven! Life begins at conception!!!
ReplyDeleteIt is very sad....but I have not seen the Republicans or the Democrats doing anything about it.
ReplyDeleteYou know what, this world isn't always such a wonderful place to be raised in. And not all women who get pregnant are going to make good mothers, loving mothers, or even stable mothers. Sometimes smart, good people get pregnant and can't do it. Either they aren't ready to be good parents, or they're in an abusive relationship, or they're with someone who is going to be a terrible parent. Or you know what, sometimes a woman gets pregnant and she knows she is not in the place to be a good mother or create a good future for this unborn baby.
ReplyDeleteYes, she COULD still have the baby. Maybe she could put the baby up for adoption.
But you know what, pretty sure not all children that find themselves put into the system end up in perfect loving homes. WHAT ABOUT ALL THE KIDS THAT ARE IN THE FOSTER SYSTEM RIGHT NOW? Why aren't you anti abortion people dealing with those children? Where is their support? Why don't all of you that are so sad about the abortions of the world go out and adopt a child currently waiting for a family in a foster home? Those kids need your money, time and tears more than the fetuses of the world.
Also, pretty sure we live in a world where we're SO UPSET about the fetuses in this world, yet you same Republicans want to vote in a candidate that is against SOCIAL PROGRAMS.
How can you force mothers to have babies, but then not vote for universal healthcare for everyone? Most people who get an abortion from Planned Parenthood HAVE NO HEALTH INSURANCE. So, if they have a baby, which without insurance is more than anyone can imagine, who's paying their medical bills for this baby they didn't want to have? Who paid for their pre-natal care and checkups?
How can the Republican party be against social programs like food stamps, like early start programs, about giving mothers free daycare, or funding education but force mother's to have babies? Who is caring for these babies the mother's didn't want????
How dare you tell me I have to have a child if I become pregnant, but then be part of the same party that wants to take away my right to healthcare? That calls Obamacare "socalist". Do you all not see that this is connected? That if we no longer let people have legal abortions that they are either going to find unsafe ways to have them (do you remember the 1950's?) or we are going to have an influx of babies born into families that don't want them, or simply have more children than your party wants to support.
Who's paying for these babies to be born? Who's educating these children? Tax payers.
You know how we stop abortions?
SEXUAL EDUCATION. Not banning abortions.
We give people free access to birth control and we teach people how to use them. It is proven in every other industrialized nation that when you give people access to sexual education the amount of unwanted pregnancies goes down.
So stop worrying yourself about Planned Parenthood and get out there and tell your children, and the neighborhood kids, and hell, talk to your children's local class about sex. THAT is the only way to ensure they don't end up having an unplanned pregnancy and possible abortion.
The Sexual Education you speak of IS out there and the refusal to make a responsible choice IS still on going. It is not education that is failing young abortion prone teens, it is their families that are failing them. A fathers that takes his teen to have an abortion (true incident) is not the kind of choice our country needs. Republicans taking away programs? No, it is government making it too available for children to be misused. No health insurance, welcome to most of my world, I payed out of pocket for medical care the majority of my life. Many uninsured siphon off of the working middle poor. If insurance were reformed for affordable insurance care the government mind it's own appropriate government causes.
DeleteThat's wonderful that you were able to find a way to pay for your health insurance out of pocket, but most can't. I know when I was a student and had no health insurance, and hardly any income to speak of, I used services such as Planned Parenthood for my annual checkup and my birth control, and I used a state funded low income health care plan for my emergency health insurance coverage.
DeleteYes, some people will always create a burden on the system. People will always find a way through the loop holes, and wealthy billionaires will always pay tax people to get them more than they deserve back on their returns. Inherently people tend to suck but that doesn't mean everyone should suffer.
Health insurance needs to be available for everyone, Obama's contraceptive program offering birth control to every woman for free is a step in the right direction, and although there is some sex education, there needs to be much, much more.
Ashley - this is the most intelligent thing I have read on this post so far. Glad to know there are a few people who don't see everything as either black or white. Also....your common sense is overwhelmingly wonderful. Don't ever change and keep thinking!
DeleteI have a very hard time with this subject ... as I was raped at age 17, became pregnant from that rape, and chose to give my child up for adoption... that was the hardest thing I ever ever ever had to do -- 23 years later, and my heart still hurts for the child that I gave away -- And my heart hurts every time someone tells me that I am a strong, brave person for giving him up for adoption -- I never feel strong or brave about my decision, I feel like a coward. But at 17 would I be where I am today if I would have kept him and raised him myself? Would I have met my now husband and had my other children? These are questions I will always "What if?" in my mind -- I think about my son everyday, I think about how he is, how he is doing ... etc.... But would I have felt this same way if I would have had an abortion? I don't know. That is an answer I will never have to face. In my opinion and my opinion only, I wish more women would chose adoption over abortion, but having been in the "adoption" shoes, I can honestly say that adoption also hurts. I do believe women have the right to choose -- and sadly some women may not believe that adoption is the right answer for them.
ReplyDeleteThanks for sharing that Julie. The reality is, it is not an easy choice. Adoption is not always an easy option. People that are pro-choice are not rejoicing over the number of abortions. It is sad. No one wants more abortions, but it's not an easy answer either. The focus should be reducing unwanted pregnancies. That's how you reduce the number of abortions. Adoption is a wonderful option for many, but just as you show here, an unwanted pregnancy is just that, unwanted. There is pain involved in any decision, but women should be the ones (the ONLY ones) that get to make it.
DeleteThanks Jess for that insight ... I couldn't agree more!
DeleteTo anyone who thinks it's a blob, tissue, or nothing yet, I have one word... ultrasound.
ReplyDeleteI just got the 3-D sonogram of my second grandchild today; everything is formed perfectly. I cannot imagine someone having an abortion. It IS a child; God breathed life into it at conception. I feel very sad for our country...
ReplyDeleteWell put. I could never have had an abortion. I had a miscarriage and the grief from that little lost life about did me in for a while. Thank you for this post. The whole idea of abortion is sad and abhorrent.
ReplyDeletePlanned Parenthood also GIVES OUT CONTRACEPTION. Why are women idiots and wait till they get pregnant before going? Especially college age women. If they don't know how to prevent pregnancy, how are they smart enough to go to college? Plus, Target has birth control pills for $7.00. And then there's the old standby - condoms. C'mon women! Take responsibility!
ReplyDeleteHigh five for standing up and writing about that you believe.
ReplyDeleteI totally agree with this EXTREMELY well-written post! I get so tired of hearing about a woman's "reproductive rights." Bottom line: in almost all cases, the woman chose to have sex, and contrary to popular belief, abortion is NOT another form of birth control. I mean, do people even think about the late term abortions that happen? The only difference between those precious babies and the babies in NICUs are that the babies in NICUs are WANTED. I agree that people drown out the facts in order to justify a barbaric practice. If were were talking about some lost tribe in another country who killed their babies as a sacrifice to some god, there would be an outcry about how barbaric those people are. Well, obviously, Americans are barbaric but they hide it by "dressing up" the practice with fancy terms, neatly pressed lab coats, and shiny instruments. I am so passionate about this subject because without a miracle, I will NEVER experience the joy of having a child in my womb. It infuriates me that people call these miracles inconveniences. There is hope through Christ for those who have had abortions and even for those that will. But don't try to act like an abortion is having an appendix removed.
ReplyDeleteAmen! This was brave of you my dear!!
ReplyDeleteI am pro-choice even though I personally, would never have an abortion. Nevertheless, I cannot and will not judge another woman who chooses abortion. I have not walked in her shoes, I have not experienced what she is experiencing, I don't know her mental state or her living conditions or her economic and emotional status.
ReplyDeleteMaking abortion illegal will not decrease abortions, but it will increase the numbers of women who die or are injured by back alley abortionists who will rise in numbers again.
Also if the Supreme Court overturns Roe v. Wade, it will be a giant setback for womens' rights at all levels. Are we really ready to give up our right to vote, our right to own property, our right to be free women rather than the "possession" of either our fathers or husbands?? Once women are deemed unable to make their own decisions about abortion, it becomes a slippery slope back to the times when women were deemed unable to think for themselves about anything. Don't think that would happen?? Well, I don't want to risk it for my daughter and granddaughter.
The argument between right to choice and right to life is really no business of the government. In fact it's no one's business except the pregnant woman and her doctor!
Judgement is always best left to God.
Yes, and God teaches us to not kill. I quote you, "I am pro-choice even though I personally, would never have an abortion. (Why not? Are you placing judgment upon someone who would have an abortion by saying you would not? Is that not a judgment?) You go on to say "Nevertheless, I cannot and will not judge another woman who chooses abortion." Hummm. Condone killing an innocent fetus? Who will judge for the silent dead? Where is discernment of right and wrong? Pro-Choice speak says it is your choice and it is...you accept the innocent deaths by accepting Pro-Choice.
DeleteOkay, to put it in the most basic terms I can, everyone makes their own choices about what they do or do not believe. That is our right in the U.S. I don't believe that it is your place, my place, or the government's place, to attempt to belittle, or ridicule a citizens choices about abortion, religion, God, or anything else. Trying to force my beliefs on you is just as wrong as trying to force your beliefs on me. The government has no business being involved in this matter at all. My opinion, my right, my choice!
DeleteI agree with Mellodee- abortion is not for me, but I believe every adult should have the freedom of choice. I understand that many women who turn to this option are doing so either out of necessity or because they know they cannot be a good parent. In most cases, it is not an easy decision to make.
DeleteThere is a lot of talk here about God/ prayer/ judgment, and I know that type of intimidation may work on someone who believes in those things. But you must be aware that there are many, many people who don't believe in any kind of higher being. And in those cases, your concerns- when it comes to purgatory- are irrelevant.
Thanks for this post.
ReplyDeleteI wish there was a way to provide more support for the women contemplating an abortion. My understanding is that many of them get one because they feel it's their only option. I got the info from a newspaper article written by a woman that works with at risk women. Maybe it's true, maybe not. She was sincere in her belief that it was true. I know there are support groups in some places, but not everywhere. The support would have to be compassionate and unbiased, so the woman would feel understood and feel that she was in control of the outcome. If the woman knew about and understood all her options and knew she'd get the support she needed if she carried the baby to term, then maybe there wouldn't be as many abortions. How all this could happen, I don't know, but it I believe it would make a difference. I am in a odd position. I don't believe abortion for the sake of personnel convenience or that of society is right, but if my retarded daughter were to somehow get pregnant, then it would be from legitimate rape for sure. There is no way she could carry a baby to term and my husband and I would not hesitate to seek an abortion for her. So under that circumstance I am grateful that there would be a safe and legal way to obtain it.
ReplyDeleteIt breaks my heart,too. I appreciate and love your perspective. Following you back,too.
ReplyDeleteWhat if my daughter, who was a married, full-time college student, had decided not to have the baby she was expecting? I wouldn't have had the wonderful, (but trying sometimes) grandson that I now have. It's just wrong to abort! I am a Christian, Protestant, and it goes against every fiber of my being. And I am a man!
ReplyDeleteWell said!
I'm not against abortion however, I am against the fact that it's legal to abort a so-called fetus until he/she (I consider 'it' a baby not a thing) already so big and clearly a person in the making. I went to a science exhibit once where they showed the human body in all its possible forms and a part of the exhibit was about the growing of the fetus. When I saw how big the 'fetus' already is at 12 weeks, I felt so outraged that it's LEGAL to kill a being when he/she already has nails, hair, etc. It's horrible.
ReplyDeleteWhen I stopped being a teen I knew I could never kill my own baby if I became pregnant. Any alternative is better than aborting, especially when you already have enough maturity to realise you must think of someone else other than yourself.
Sorry for writing so much.
Thank you for your description of the unborn killed. I agree.
DeleteI am so, so, so grateful that I have a choice what I do with my body and whether or not, I want to be pregnant for 9 months, give birth and bring a baby into this world, that I will be responsible for.
ReplyDeleteAll those things are MY choices. Mine alone. Because who does all those things, who has to go through all that and take on the responsibility of it all? I do. No one else is going to help me care for my baby. Am I up for it, am I willing and able to raise a human being? Let ME decided that. Not you, not men politicians, not my family, but just ME.
Mother of Three. (So relieved we got four more years of Obama!)
Amen! Let each woman make her own choice, whatever it may be.
Deletewonderful post Mom, I couldnt agree more. I wish all women could read this!
ReplyDeleteI don't know anything about your election or taxes paying...just a view on abortion.
ReplyDeleteI sometimes wonder what is worse...a person who falls pregnant and chooses not to have that baby because they are given the choice and don't want it, or a person who gives life to one that they then neglect...I think that is a far bigger crime and there are many of those around who don't take care of their children and neglect and abuse them....maybe this is something that should be addressed too. It is a double edged sword.
Then of course sometimes there are reasons for abortion...they aren't easy and decisions often aren't made lightly but they are made.
As a woman whose daughter struggles with infertility, I am grateful for every woman who chooses to carry a child to term and give that child up for adoption rather than terminating her pregnancy.
ReplyDeleteThere is no gift quite like the gift of a child to someone who desperately wants to love and raise one.
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Think of all the lost babies and how so many people want to adopt. sandie
ReplyDeleteThank you for your post. Look at the middle east. That is where the real war of women is.
ReplyDeleteIt is still a choice. Government funded or not. And to everyone that is pro-life, have you adopted a child or don't they count?
ReplyDeleteWhat a brave post, Annmarie. I applaud you. It was a sad day indeed. I am terribly sad for the babies - but maybe, God has other plans. His ways are not our ways - at least that was what I told myself when I got the results. Let us pray and hope for the best.
ReplyDeleteYou are so right, Annmarie. You expressed the ugliness and sadness a woman experiences for a very long time after an abortion, the taking of an innocent human life. I am very saddened and shocked at the election results...that the majority voted for taxpayer funding of abortions and for more "free" stuff for themselves that ends up costing a whole lot. We can't beat Santa Claus. We are outnumbered.
ReplyDeleteI agree!! Some women just don't realize that it's not about the government trying to control their bodies!!! It's about protecting their unborn 'children'!! And to think that God still loves us, in spite of ourselves! Amazing grace...I'm so thankful for His amazing grace.
ReplyDeleteGreat post. Women have been deceived into thinking the right to an abortion means they are free and independent. Such hoo-ha. Being independent and free includes protecting those who are not independent OR free - the unborn. Taking a life never brings us honor or freedom. It makes us cowardly. Women AND men need to accept the responsibility of sexual activity, whatever the outcome is. That's being a grown-up.
ReplyDeleteI agree. All life is precious. There a lot of people that would love to have a child to love. Adoption is a better option. And us, the working class, shouldn't have to pay for abortion or birth control. If that is your choice, then you should pay for it when the money you earn.
ReplyDeletewow, what a post.
ReplyDeleteI'm not from your country but I was also very saddened to hear the result.
I'm infertile and it took us 2 IVFs over 4 years to finally have babies (twins) so I just can't fathom how people could ever even CONSIDER aborting. And fancy words or not, those are people (they have heartbeats at 6/ 7 weeks, for goodness sake
Thanks for speaking out against abortion. I agree it is a terrible sin this country bears. So many woman are in a bad place in there life when they become pregnant and it's so easy to be convinced into thinking this is an Okay option. It saddens me when a woman could think this is okay but it really is beyond my understanding when so many woman that have had a child can say they support abortion.
ReplyDeleteI do want to add one thing...I do not hate you if you've had an abortion but I do pray for you. You will carry that memory with you forever. God still loves you.
I am a Christian and I did have an abortion, I can say wholeheartedly that I regret my choice and would steer any girl away from planned parenthood as they do not tell you how you will feel after the “procedure” is done. There is guilt, shame, and like most have mentioned on here the memory will never go away. However, I guarantee that some woman that have read this post may have made the same choice as I have and feel condemned that they can’t be set free from their sin. I am here to say as a woman who did make that choice that you can be set free from the chains of your past and find healing over your decision. The last statistic I read is that 1 out of 3 woman in the US have an abortion by the time they are 45 years old. That is a lot of people, people you may be friends with, go to church with, it could be your next door neighbor. There is a lot of hurting woman out there that need to know they are still loved and they are forgiven- I was one of those woman. I have met many wonderful, beautiful, fit to be mom’s that made this decision and feel remorseful and wish they could go back…yet they can’t go back but they can be forgiven. I write this in hopes that we will all be compassionate to others not knowing the heart of woman who did make this choice and what they were going through and my prayer is that if anyone is in need of healing they can find it through the Lord. If you did have an abortion and read this please feel free to contact me and I will share my story with you and how Jesus redeemed me.
ReplyDeleteAll my blessings and love
Nicole
What a beautiful person you are Nicole for being so BOLD to post your personal story. Its takes a strong woman to be able to say that you went through this personally but can also see how the lover of our soul will redeem, refine and use our struggle to help and teach others. We don't have to let our past define who we are or keep us from moving forward.
DeleteAnnmarie, thank you for speaking out on this very important issue. Several years ago I lead three women who had had abortions in Beth Moore's Bible Study "Breaking Free". All three women were dealing with sorrow, regret and guilt over their abortions (a "choice" they had made before they became followers of Christ). By God's grace through repentance, Beth's study and prayer all three women have come to accept the Lord's forgiveness, love and healing in their lives. It's so critical for women who have had abortions and are living with the pain of regret to know that God is waiting with open arms to restore them. And to know that those aborted babies are in heaven waiting to meet their mothers one day. Praise God!
ReplyDeleteI really dislike that this extremely private issue has become a public-political one. It's really no one's business. You can have your beliefs either way, and both sides should just be quiet, accept their differences, and stop fighting. However, using tax dollars from the ones who have strong beliefs, and in particular religious beliefs about abortion, is like making Muslims pick up the pork tab. It is completely wrong, selfish and disrespectful. On the other hand, judging someone who chooses abortion for whatever personal reasons she has, seems to conflict strongly with religious teachings of how to treat others. Both sides behave very poorly, and while we fight all day on this, the politicians high five as they're spending us into oblivion. At the most pressing time in our history of our financial status and future bankruptcy, we instead had an election on social issues. Now we will all lose together.
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