Monday, December 17, 2012

Make Someone Happy

Tis the season to be busy. Last night we still did not have all the inside Christmas lights up, and my husband promised to put them up when he brought the boys home from club practice. So the lump of lights sat on the dining room table. I went into my college son's room and asked him to please at least put the Christmas lights up over the dining room hutch. He replied with his consistent stalling and avoidance strategy, "What?" I said just put the lights up. But then when he was finished, I did not like the way they hung over the side and did not like the garland he used, so told him he had to do it over. He said, "What?" I explained this was a tedious and particular chore and it is going to take time and effort, so just accept that and do it. 10 minutes later he said. "Ok, is that good enough?" I then asked him if that is how he wanted to do these lights...just good enough. Is that really the person he wants to be, good enough? So stop complaining and do the lights right. An hour and a half later the house was twinkling with many tiny white lights. Everything looked beautiful, really!  I told him how pretty everything looked, but he knew it. Then my husband came home at 9:30, tired, and expecting to hang lights and sees they are already done. He proclaims, "Oh! Nice! The lights are done!" Luke, the one son who also just came home was looking forward to a bowl of lucky charms, when he opened the refrigerator, he saw there was no milk. So he asked Mikey, the son who just put up all the lights, "Could you please go get milk?" Mikey again replied "What?"  He did not feel like one bit like going to the store to get milk. But he did. Luke had his cereal. I said to Mikey, "Just think. Tonight you made 3 people happy. Me. Dad. And your brother. By any ones standards, that is a successful night. Thank you. " And in light of current events, a chance to make someone happy may be the last chance you'll ever get.

87 comments:

  1. Annmarie! Yay for you! Your style of mom-hood is very commendable!!! Awesome story + Awesome moral of the story.

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  2. Annmarie, This is a good rule for a successful marriage too... Amen! Take Care, Big Daddy Dave

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  3. This is a great lesson for us all. Thanks!

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  4. Awesome...good for you getting through to a young man!!

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  5. He's going to remember that for a long time. Good for you and him~

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  6. Very Nice, This young Man will continue to make you proud I have a feeling, and you are so right in that making someone happy may be our last chance to do it.

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  7. Sometimes I think everybody forgets to do something nice for the people at home. We do take each other for granted.

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  8. Great lesson:-)
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  9. Beautifully put and great lessons you are teaching your children.

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  10. What a beautiful story -- so very true!!!

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  11. I love how you raise your children. They know how important family is, but most importantly, they love each other and serve one another (even when they don't want to). When we serve others, we are truly blessed. :)

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  12. Oh that is such a wonderful way to think about making someone happy. Or making 3 somebody's happy! Love it!

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  13. You should write a book on how to motivate children. You really know your stuff.

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  14. How true! You really are a great mom!

    Happy Tuesday!

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  15. And did I mention a great bloggy buddy too!

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  16. It's hard to get teens to do anything. Kudos on that accomplishment. I'm sure he felt better about the work after realizing he made everyone happy.

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  17. Lessons like these at an early stage can make such a huge difference to how we lead our lives in the long run. Making someone happy is such a satisfying feeling, a happy feeling that can be replaced by nothing else. Thank you for this inspiring read, freshens me up as I've just started my day in India. :-)

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  18. So true. What a nice boy to do stuff for you and his dad and brother.

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  19. rather sobering end to this....but i guess these are rather sobering days...all we have is what we go...might as well spend it putting smiles on peoples faces...

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  20. You are so right. What a great story!

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  21. I'm glad three people are happy. The recent events are totally appalling in my books.

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  22. What a great lesson you taught your boy today!

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  23. fabulous lesson!
    I don't have this problem with my son....he's such a perfectionist it is crazy! I have to do the opposite -- Ok, stop it's so great just like that. and yet, he'll tinker some more.

    his father on the hand - a definite "what'er"

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  24. Hi Annmarie, you're an excellent mum. Cheers to you.
    Thanks for the inspiration. Have a lovely week ahead,regards.

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  25. I love my responsible sons they make your heart sing you probably went to bed singing your heart away!

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  26. Great post, thanks for sharing.
    Wish you and your family a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year.
    Mette

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  27. You are so right to have insisted he get it right. You knew he had it in him and he is learning it's best to do it right from the beginning! I'm waiting for my 32 year old to get home next weekend -- he's promised to do the tree and I know he's learned to do the lights perfectly -- years of insistence on my part!

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  28. There's no better way to teach our children timeless values of kindness and making someone happy through the seemingly very trivial things of the day. You're a truly wonderful mom!

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  29. A little encouragement goes a long way. Nice parenting AnnMarie.

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  30. Really nice way to reinforce the importance of serving others in little ways in our daily lives, Annmarie :)

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  31. Sweet helper! It doesn't take much to make others smile:) Have a blessed day dear friend, HUGS!

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  32. Well done Mikey there is nothing better than making someone else happy and the lovely warm feeling it gives you xxx

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  33. Yes, making 3 people's night is an acheivement!!! And yes, you never know when you will have that last opportunity to make someone happy!!!

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  34. It's nice that you encourage your children to be their best, those kinds of lessons really stick.

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  35. Oh my gosh...what a teacher of excellence you are with your children. It is so inspiring!

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  36. Love how you persevered until your son got it right. I have to admit, I may have given up and done it myself.
    Merry Christmas, Mary Alice

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  37. Growing up I could never ever please my mother - it was never up to "her" standards. However, the way you handled the lights with your son was brilliant - giving him the opportunity to think if "good enough" was how he wanted his life to be. Very wise choice of words. And yes, in light of Sandy Hook, again spot on.

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  38. I love when the kids do selfless things for their brothers and sisters. Such a great way to show God's love for us. :)

    Laura@MiceInTheKitchen

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  39. I love this story very much! As you said to Mikey, "Just think. Tonight you made 3 people happy. Me. Dad. And your brother.", Mikey also got happy. Great happy family! I learned from this story a lot!!
    keiko

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  40. I love the way you find the perfect words of encouragement for your kiddos. Great mom. :)

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  42. yay for your son! he has a good heart. You must be in cloud 9 for having such children you have :)

    Merry Christmas to you and your family, Annmarie! :) :)


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  43. You always find great teaching moments in everyday tasks. I love it and feel like not only did your son learn something, I also learned something.

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  45. I agree what has happened makes you so happy to see your family walk through the door

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  46. what a great lesson and one i'm sure your son will remember

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  47. What a great posting and what a wonderful son you have.
    Wishing you and your famnily a lovely Holiday.
    Heidi

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  48. What a good son. I know that you know this.... but you are blessed.

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  49. Your son now knows he is appreciated. Have a Merry Lighted Christmas!

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  50. I'm sure he must have been happy when he realized how happy he had made everyone but oh what a sad ending. I'm sorry that I think this Christmas is going to be more pensive than jolly.

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  51. A very good point. Sometimes we forget how the little things can make someone happy and you didn't forget to praise your son on what great things he did either. Happy Holidays!

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  52. Love the last line...hear hear.

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  53. I love your approach - authority and way of making something small a big lesson.
    Your children are so lucky to have you as a mom.

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  54. That's a great lesson to learn at a young age!

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  55. Annmarie, you make me smile! I love your parenting style.

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  56. Your children are so blessed to have you as a mom...if only other parents would take the time to teach their kids as you do I believe the world would be a better place. You must have had wonderful parents yourself.

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  57. It often takes so little to make someone happy!

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  58. You have good kids, Annmarie, and a happy family. I love to read about your home life. Merry merry Christmas to all!

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  59. I hope Mickey felt good about his successful evening. It's a real accomplishment to make three people happy in one evening.

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  60. This reminds me of your prev posting "seeking God first" which I think is the way to serve Him or in daily conversation, "make someone happy"

    Thanks for sharing.

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  61. Very well done! You are raising lovely people. :)

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  62. What a sweet story! Cheers to you for raising such a good child :)

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  63. Lessons we can teach in very simple instances and terms. Thanks for helping me learn how to relate to my children too.
    Have a super blessed Merry CHRISTmas Annmarie!
    Love

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  64. Great job by you and Mikey! At least when he is married and his wife asks him to hang the lights...it will be one chore he can do for her....successfully!

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  65. Great kid.
    And some very good parenting, too!

    =)

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  66. I love the way you see things :-)

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  67. What an awesome story - and you're son's character truly shows through :) How fabulous! :)
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  68. Such a lovely story. I have had to but heads with mine too, but am very glad when the results turn out like yours did.

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